i would like to know why i do discharge quickly during sex.i don,t have problem with ejaculation , but i don,t enjoy sex the way i would love too, just because while am having sex sex with my girl friend i just cant control my feelings anymore and i end up discharging too fast and that make me mad at my self.what should i do please,please
It is part of getting older and being a guy, but it is also means you have to learn how to pace yourself and figure out what your partner needs are and figure out how to both get what you need. There is no reason to be mad at yourself. You just are getting older and need a new plan for sexual enjoyment.
This message has been edited by Xuxan on Oct 9, 2006 8:41 PM
darylynn (no login)
too soon old too late smart
October 9 2006, 10:51 PM
How old are you?just because you came does not mean the party is over. A very kind lady once told me " Baby we got
all Night.
Many guys have a problem very similar to yours. It becomes difficult for them to slow themselves down so that they can please a woman. Pleasing a woman is one of the most important things you will ever do....so it is worth working hard to achieve.
1st idea: You can find some skin desensitizers (numbing agents) at your local pharmacy or maybe in the family medicine cabinet.. You gently rub some on your penis in the sensitive areas before "making out". It will slow you down some. I know these work cause I've tried some. Normally sensitive areas become numb. It's kind of a STRANGE FEELING. It might buy you 10-15 minutes more. Or you or she can re-apply for a longer time.
2nd idea: Concentrate on bringing pleasure to your girl.(foreplay) She should not be stimulating you at this time. Do not penetrate right away. If by some chance, you cannot hold back, let it go and CONTINUE FOREPLAY ON HER. Do not think about yourself....your VERY NORMAL. Soon, you will be right back again and ready to go again...except this time you'll last much longer.(Have plenty of tissues nearby.)
3rd idea: Masturbate sometime before your date...it will slow you down.
Lastly...Do not forget your birth control.
Enjoy your life now...as time goes on , the exact opposite will happen. You then will be looking for ways to get it up and keep it up.
Gregorio