Hi, if a man says he loves you and cares about you, etc, etc, and you have been seeing him for alomost a year and intimate, and he's the only guy you're with and he knows that, but he never ask you to be his girlfriend, does that contradict him saying he wants you and loves you? Is he just not interested in me in that way? What' your opinion on that, thanks.

Is he seeing anyone else? Is there something missing in your relationship?

Some guys don't think girlfriend/ boyfriend stuff is important. If you don't bring it up - they aren't going too either.

Maybe he already thinks of you that way and just doesn't feel he has to say it.

Maybe he doesn't want to make a committmemnt to you like that - maybe he thinks he is too young.

Have you asked him?

If he treats you well and you are not of marrying age - what would change - why is this important to you?

I doubt very much it is a contradiction - perhaos different values or a misunderstanding.

Maybe it is just Puppy love ?? depends on how old both of you are. Maybe he just wants to get into your panties. I know when I was very young, that was my main interest. Didnt want to get serious with any girl. In fact I didnt change much. I enjoy having lots of sex with different woman.

So like I always say now...... "TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME" If it was meant to be, then it will be. Mean while, live and learn. Growing up is not a bed of rosses.

Thanks for replying. No, he is not seeing anyone else. Nothing is missing but the title of g/f an b/f that I would like. I bought it up in the past but it seems as though he skips right through it so I never bought it up again. Well, we act like b/f and g/f but still. He is 28, not that young to me to not want to get into something serious. I am turning 22 next month. It's important to me b/c I don't understand how anyone who loves someone would not want to 'claim' them so no other man could want to take you away, wouldn't he feel threatened and he knows that I get approached be men a lot, even in front of him. Hard to comprehend that. Oh well, I guess I have to make the next step and end this, I've waited too long actually. Thanks!

If he is 28 and you are 22 than the situation is slightly different. He is older than you in a very important way. You have just finished childhood and are ready for independence and adult responsibilities with relatively little experience. He has has been out there for awhile. He should be reasonably sure of what he wants.

So you need to assume one of 3 things - 1. He isn't ready for committment and never will be. or 2. You are not the person he is going to want to commit to or 3. He is not the kind of person who is going to initiate committment and you need to be the one who initiates it.

So I would say first give 3 a try if you think he is worth it. Otherewise it is time to move on. Because if it is 1 or 2 you are wasting your time.

I may be missing something here, but it seems to me the obvious answer is to ask more questions! If he can't commit and you want that perhaps it's time to move on but I wouldn't jump at anything. Just because he's older doesn't mean he is more mature. Love doesn't come easily, sometimes it doesn't come at all (to quote Paul McCartney's silly love songs) you need to have a heart to heart discussion and see if he really loves you the same as you do him, and see if the same thing is in the relationship for both of you ...good luck & forgive me if you've been there and done that ...just doesn't seem like full communication. And to quote the band 10 CC ..."communication is the problem to be answered!" In the song "the things we do for love" how musically inspired eh? -lol