The other night my wife and her best friend gave me a blow job together. It was completely sudden and unexpected. They seem OK with it now. I am loving the idea of it. I just hope it leads to more. I'm looking for people that have real life experiance to give me advice on this one and of course Susan!

What advice do you need? They seem ok - you are obviously ok. If they want to do it again I'm sure you will know. And I am sure they know you are wiling to do it again.

Don't plan on it though. Sometimes these things are a one time thrill. No guilt. No committment.

Let them take the lead of when and if it happens again.

The part about I would be willing again your 100% correct. Thank you for telling me to allow them to act on their terms.

As far as other advice I'm looking for...

What if anything should I be worried about.
Did I cheat? My wife was not only there she took part.
If my wife doesn't bring it back up again how could I start the conversation about doing it again?

Well if you are going to get more involved - you need to be concerned about her possible sexually transmitted diseases.

You also need to be concerned about her getting pregnant.

You need to be concenred about her emotional involvement with you and that she may put pressure on you to leave your wife.

You may find yourself attracted to her and have to figure out what to do with that attraction.

The two women might decided they are into each other and want to see each other without you - how do you feel about that.

Cheating is about not having permission to do something - neither of you cheated.

If you are smart you won't bring it up. Let your wife do it. If you do she may feel jealous and less likely to go for it again. Let her make the next move.

Well it looks like you got the best of both worlds...... If I was you ????? I wouldnt show the wife that you are anxious to do it again...... Let it come from her. Otherwise she will begin to wonder if she made the right choice.

Woman are funny creatures, they will get very suspicious on how much you like the third party.... and that can cause problems.

Well if you think that is OK, you have issues. That is not what normal folks do, Most people in happy marriages don't get off watching their wife suck off some dude, so I'm saying, get a reality check. No problem, I expect you wil be divorced soon anyway. Go figure.

From Susan - I don't expect it to change your mind, but it was 2 women and 1 man.

And plenty of good, healthy marriages experiment. Sometimes they experiment when the marriage is bad and an experiment isn't going to make it any better. Soemtimes they experiment and find they enjoy it and it makes their relationship stronger. Sometimes they experiment and it just doesn't have any effect one way or the other.

More biology time, research shows that human males are not genetically predisposed to be monogamous, but polygamous. Women are more likely to be monogamous.

I.E. In the wild, men would have more than one partner to ensure the greatest rate of reproduction, but the women would only have one partner.