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dear susan
     hi, my name is ----. i got your site from a friend who told me that it
really helped her. me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and
he really wants me to give him head or a blow job. i am totaly up for it,
though my one problem is that i don't know how to. i really need some help
here 'cause i don't know who else to ask and i'm too emabarassed to ask
anyone else. please help me out here with some detailed directions of what
i'm supposed to do. if you could also include some little tricks that helps
you arouse your spouse, i would relaly appreciate it. thanks so much, and
please respond soon.
Dear ----,

I am so glad your friend was helped and I hope I can help you too.

It is so exciting that you and your boyfriend both agree that you want oral sex.
Doing a 'blow job' the first time may seem pretty weird - but with practice it will
seem less weird. 

I suggest you ask your boyfriend to wash his penis before you do it the first time.
After you have done it a few times this might not be so important. Expect that your boyfriend's penis will taste a little funny. You might really like the taste or
you might need to get used to it. If you don't like it very much try not to breath.

The first time you do it just lick the head of his penis - the round part at the
end. Lick around it in circles - especially the ridge. Think of it as like a piece
of candy.

After that feels ok, then try to put the head of his penis in your mouth. Lick it
some more while it is in your mouth - you can also suck it / like a baby bottle.
While you do this hold his penis in your hand- slide your hand up and down his
penis or squeeze it - let go- squeeze it.

Every man is different so what your boyfriend may like things fast or slow- soft
or hard. Try doing it different ways and see what he likes best. Ask him to tell
you what he likes and what he doesn't like. Don't be afraid to talk about sex with
each other.

After you get used to having his penis in your mouth try sliding it deeper and deeper into your mouth. It might be hard to breathe - so be sure to take a deep breath before you start. While you do this you might like to hold his testicals/ balls in your hand. Think of them like marbles and roll them in your fingers. Be very gentle. Also gently rub the smooth spot/perineum behind his balls.

When you are licking his penis - see if you can find the vein in his penis. Lick
along the vein.

You can also lick his balls and and suck on them.

Why don't you try these ideas and see what happens. Tell me how it goes and
I will give you more ideas.

Susan

Hi. My name is Joy and I just wanted to say that its okay to be scared to give a blowjob for the first time, but you'll get used to it. You may love or hate it. I know I was scared the first time, but I got to where I love it. Thats not a bad habit, you know?

I find that having my balls sucked is the most effective way for me. Try to focus on both parts equally, penis and testicals.