Hello,
Today has been quite a day at my lawyer's office that I want to forget!!! It was HE!!, my mom drove me cause i was a wreck to begin with, she looked at me and gasped before i went in the office and said I look like a walking ghost I was soo pale....I looked even more ghostly when i came out.!!!
When I got in he gave a me a briefing of where they were gonna go. sounded ok...THEN HE SAID NOW I WILL BE THEIR LAWYER, AREYOU READY? His entire demeanor changed, I almost forgot he was my lawyer, helooked hard and thru questions at me...one was about a previous accident i had about 16 years ago....remember the first thing he asked me was have you ever been to a dr for shoulder or neck I said no not to my knowledge unless it was a pulled muscle or something...a bit later he asked about previous accident.
I said I didnt hit another car, ran off the road...he asked if i sustained any injuries...i said i was very stiff and sore from the accident from shock more then anything. then he jumped and said was your shoulder and neck stiff? I said yes they were, but it went away after a few days. then more questions, I just started to cry and shake and say i dont know how im doing I am scared...i dont want to say anything wrong, im scared Ive ellaborated when i shouldnt have. I've never lied about my pain and i am getting extremely nervous and i dont know if i can go on...let alone discovery...if i was like that with my lawyer can u imagine what I will be like with THEIR LAWYER????
Afteer about 45 minutes of being put in the hot seat, I was crying and so fed up...thinking ins is going to try to get me to say something that isnt true and that terrifies the heck out of me!!!!
My lawyer then stared at me...dont know why...for a few minutes, did the temple thing in front of his face and said I think you will do well. I almost fell face first on the table!!! I said are you kidding you must see that I am a wreck. I haven't answered all the questions with a definite answer, in fact the only thing I was sure of was pain. I cried, I shook, and I took a long time to answer sometimes...i truly thought he was gonna dump me but then to my surprise he said I done well.
He said i shouldnt expect to recall everything, if im not sure, i have to say that, its good to take my time cause it helps to relax and think about my answers. He was very supportive...I think he felt a little badly too for doing that to me but he said he had to do it to prepare me. so he said to email him with any concerns i have between now and wednesday morning and he wants me to come a half hour early too..he said hubby can not come in with me...he also told me they may have survieliance tapes but thats ok, just if they ask you if you have ever lifted for example a couch and you arent sure make sure you tell the truth, if u cant remember then say that...i said well the truth is I do things that cause me pain, and some cause me a great deal of pain, but some things i have to do, doesnt mean I enjoy doing them.
He seemed very impressed with my honesty, he held info on my case and was glancing thru it at times to make sure my answers were correct, another words if i was making anything up. Actually, he said the only place I didnt tell the complete truth was when asked about my injuries, I left some out, that were documented by drs. He smiled and said i am an honest person and to go home relax, and just remember the truth and most importantly you are not coming to discovery to "impress" their lawyer, meaning if u answer a question and they have a puzzled look, dont try to please them, my only job is to tell the truth.
One thing he said was "we didnt give them our demand letter yet, the one with the dollar amount on it...cause they called him and said they want to meet at discovery then demand letter...their lawyer said they want to get this taken care of asap. Is that a good sign??? I've always been told that offers are given back and forth then discovery, why would ins want to go this route?? I know I am being paranoid again, lol.
Im pretty sure i will be alright on wednesday, i just have to remember to STAND MY GROUND, and dont let them railroad me into anything, I didnt cause my mva injuries the iresponsible driver did!!!
Take care all, and I am SOO HAPPY TO BE BACK, DID YOU KNOW MY TUMMY SETTLED FOR NOW. That is a glorious thing, crohns may not be out of remission, dr said to wait it out a bit may just be nerves from everything on my plate right now...i think he was right.
Sorry for the horrendous long post, i type so fast, 65 words per minute that I dont realize how long my posts are, lol. I wish I had my accuracy back tho.
Thank you all for your support, there is more to my story but I will e mail the rest, too personal to post. God bless you all!!
luv
annie
