Just wanted to let you all know that I got approved for SSDI yesterday. After 2 yrs of trying to convince the SSA that I was indeed disabled and unable to work, I finally got approved. God, now I can heave a sigh of relief and stop stressing over it.
I can't walk at all now unless I use my crutches (my left hip has started acting up-doctors warned me it would happen but I was really hoping to get this right hip replaced b4 dealing with the left). Anyway, my son usually checks mail for me. Well, we forgot. So, around 7:30pm I told him to go check and voila-a letter from SSA. I couldn't open it. I told him to read it and the first sentence he read said "you have been fully favorably approved for SSDI benefits."
Lord, child, you could have knocked me over with a stick, lol.
We laughed, then I cried, then laughed again. God, you have no idea what I've been thru for 2 yrs. I went from bring home $7-800 wk clear to $450/mth-my mom has made up the difference for the past year (after my unemployment ran out) on my rent and utilities. In fact, I felt so bad for he bcz she's 75 and was supposed to retire this month but says she wouldn't until I heard from soc sec (she was worried if she retired she wouldn't have enough money to help me). Talk about feeling guilty. Now, it's over. I'll get back pay for 2 yrs and my son will get a monthly chk til he turns 19 also.
The only advise I can offer anyone on this board who is thinking about applying for SSDI--save and plan. Don't just quit unless you have a back-up plan. The state does not care if you don't have enough money to pay rent or utilities-they will give you little money and little food stamps to live on-
LUV YOU ALL,
donna
P.s. Tammy, we did it didn't we girl? We survived.
Well that certainly is a BIG sigh of relief for you and your family. Now you can get your parts fixed !!!!
I guess I don't need to tell you to have a good weekend now do I ???
I don't know what I would have done if my mom hadn't stepped in and helped w/the diff on the rent, utilities, etc. But, it's sure not the same as having your own money coming in. She's excited too bcz a year's worth of bills have caused considerable adjustment to her savings for her retirement and she now knows she'll get every penny bck. She was supposed to retire this mth at 75. But, now she says that she's had time to think about it and is going to cut her hrs but not retire quite yet. (she loves her job and bein around people).
Sorry these are short mssgs but it's getting more and more difficult to sit past 10 min typing anymore.
and the day-to-day stress of living w/no money is gone-
and the guilt over my son having to put up w/me and not having money to go to mall or shop for clothes or movies, etc. He has been so good about things, never complained.
He just turned 16 and we got his learners permit couple mths ago just in time for my car to go up. So he hasn't gotten any driving time. But, I'm gonna make it up to him-his dad (my ex) and I are going to get him a nice, used car.
you know you will always have a special place in my heart girl. Yes, it's been a long & winding road-hey, isn't that a beatle song, hehe
On a serious note. Red, if they turned me down on this last appeal, my life would be changing so differently. I would have had to move me and my son in with my mom-
anyone ever moved back home as an adult you will know the dilemma that would have caused.
Anyway, they haven't told me exactly how much I'll get per month, but from last year's soc sec stmt, I'll be able to make it if I stay on budget.
I know exactly what your talking about Donna. I've been able to relax and enjoy the less painful days when they come. I think the stress was wearing me down and now I can enjoy spending the money to address the things that need to be done around here.
I had new steps and a patio installed and now I'm working on what I want for a new fence. I need to get the plumbing done in the kitchen and a new roof. I want to use the money for good things so that when I have to live on the retirement money I won't have things to worry about.
I'm having trouble with my left side of my butt and my legs bother me big time now with the numbness. I guess I may have to sell this house and move into a one floor someday but I haven't stopped fighting yet. A wheel chair isn't something I want to end up in but if I do I know I tried.
I'm so very happy for you Donna.....now if you can get your hips taken care of, that will be a big plus.
It's a shame we don't all live close where we could help each other. I wish Annie lived close cause I would help her with the kids. I miss all of mine at work and there's just not enough noise in this house. On my bad days of course it's heaven but I miss the noise. I don't think I would EVER tell my kids on the bus to quite down if I could have ever gone back to work.
Yes, I did get your email. Thanks soooo much. Will write back as soon as I can - I started back at the Neurorehab this week and I'm feeling pretty bashed.
I am happy to hear it worked out for you! You are blessed to have had your mother to help and now, she too can relax!
We are financially where we need to settle - at least one of us and that is never the right reason to settle but more often than not, I am sure is a big reason many do! And one insurance companies count on!! It can be such a draw and it takes a big toll both emotionally and physically so it is always so nice to hear when someone who has been through so much, has such wonderful news!
Donna,
I am so glad to hear that things are starting to go your way.
It has been along road for you. Am praying that your hip surgery also goes smooth for you. God it is so good to hear some good news!!!
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