If you could go back in time, knowing what you know now, and change "one" thing in your life-what would it be and why?
donnaC
If I could change one thing about my life, it would have been my "ex." I would have ran as fast and as far away from him as I could get, lol. Seriously, if I knew he liked to drink more than work, I would not have gotten married.
Ok, now who else is brave enough to bare all, lol?
Well I guess mine would be, I would not have been in my car the morning I was hit, then I wouldn't be in this boat. But then I wouldn't have met you all.
Anyway seriously, I would have moved out of my parents house alot sooner than I did. I finally managed to get myself pulled together at 16 and get myself a police escort out. I should have gotten away from the abuse alot sooner than I did. I should have opened my mouth and said something about it to a teacher or someone else.
Donna,
when I first read your post a million things jumped
into my mind. Ahhhhhhhh the things I would change.
And then I got to thinking, If I change this, won't
this then change too?? Like if I chose to not marry
my hubby then I won't have my wonderful children and
grandchildren. If I chose to follow my dreams then
loved ones would be changed. So anyway it was FUN to
dream. And in dreaming I find that choices I have made
are really not so bad.
So for all of us I pray that we find the peace
and comfort that we need!!
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
Hi Donna - I agree with tspauld. If I could change one thing, I would never have left the house and then I would not have been hit.
sickandtiredofitall
there is no point in looking to the past and wishing you could change something. Everything in your life happens for a reason. Everything that has happened has brought you to where you are today. The good the bad and the ugly, every moment counts, and its those moments that made you the person you are today!
Now that I think of it, you are sooo right CAA. I wouldn't have 2 of my 3 children if I hadn't married my ex and wouldn't have one of my grandchildren so I guess I'll have to take it back.
I think I would have gone a different route that morning of my first mva or left alittle earlier or later. It must have been fate that my son, who at the time was only 9, was sick that day so he stayed home with his dad so he wasn't involved in the mva. Good thing, cuz the back of the car was in the back seat which is where he would have been sitting.
Unfortunately, one of my daughters, who was 13 at the time was injured but she's doing better now. However, she still complains of back pain from time to time.
This is a good question! my answer is quite simple...
I wish I would have gotten crohns disease seven years ago! Strange huh? Well, I existed prior to getting sick, I slept a lot, did nothing constructive or important with my life up til i got chrons, when all hope was lost 12 years ago and drs thought I was a goner,,,my perspective changed, I lived my life, i did things that mattered, i helped people oh! The list is long,,,so yes I wish i would have gotten sick seven years sooner,,,so i could appreciate my life much more than I did.
Yes, some of us did find just one thing they could change and then a few of us thought long and hard about their life and if there was anything in their lives they would change and yes we all agree to disagree.
It was fun though because I got a chance to look at the things I did in my life that I'm not real proud of and saw the good things that came out of my relationship with my ex. Even tho he was an alcoholic and abused me physically and mentally, he did in the beginning before things got real bad, give me 2 of my wonderful children and I wouldn't change that in a million years.
I think all of us would agree that if they could have avoided the mva that brought them years of pain and anguish, they would. But then again, some of us have taken that pain and redirected it in a positive way, so who knows-- if we truly would change anything in our lives if we could.
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