Re: Hi JaniceApril 8 2011 at 5:03 PM
|Marie #1 (no login)|
Response to Hi Janice
Hi Janice. My 82 year old mother lives with us due to very similar circumstances. Have there been any changes in your moms meds since or before, the onset of these events? When things first started to change with my mom, we talked it over with the rest of the family trying to figure out what to do. As you say our parents want their freedom and independence (and will let you know pretty damn quick) What we found works for us is to lay it all out for her (the good and bad points about this independence) then let her make up her own mind concerning what she wants to do. (Yea we manipulate a little because we worry about her safety) We have structured a system where someone always needs her help and comes to get her, (my daughter needs her to come to her house and help watch the twins, my brother and sister in law need help at their place with a meal mom makes the best, I need a shopping buddy etc..) All my mom wants its to still feel useful and needed so it is a little easier for us. The truth is we need her more than she needs us. LOL
The confusion going on with your mom is concerning, is it cold where she is, is she running a heater, taking meds you dont know about? So many things could be going on, I would suggest starting with a new doctor and check her living space for meds, leaks etc. Could be she is tired out and going to sleep too early after being over tired. The falls are also alarming, have her eyes been checked lately? My mom has no peripheral vision and macular degeneration. (We have rearranged the house so there is nothing down low to trip her up.
Will keep you in thought and prayer,
- Hi Marie - Janice on Apr 13, 2011, 8:55 PM