Here are some ideas Have you tried a plastic spoon? we had one who didn't like the taste of our metal ones. Some times sugaring the food works. we also had one who would only drink, so we mixed her food with milk or what ever we had on the tray that was appropriate. some of the things that actually work cannot be used when state is in but... can she do finger food? get an extra slice of bread and make a sandwich. We had one that you filled her spoon and she could use it. that one took two spoons.