Hi:
First off, welcome. I've only officially quit field service and meetings in December, so I'm pretty new at this too.
I do have one thing that I objected to in your comments:
"I do think that the JW have very good advice on marriage, parenting, etc. those issues...Well, again, I want to take that back...See how confusing it is???"
When my wife left me because I was inactive, I went to the elders. The Watchtower may say that they view the family as important, but it is a different story in the Kingdom Hall. She lied to them about all kinds of things. When I told the elders that I could prove she was lying, they simply dismissed it.
When she didn't allow me to see my kids for six months (again the elders response was that it is not up to them to encourage her to let me see the kids) I gave up and filed divorce.
It was a real eye opener for me.
Don't get me wrong, I understand where you are coming from when you made that statement.
As for JW teachings, I've posted a little bit about the resurrection of Abraham on another site. Feel free to check it out. For me, it shows just how they are willing to ignore an entire chapter in Hebrews to maintain their beliefs.
http://exjehovahswitnessforum.yuku.com/topic/7790
As for the idea that the Holy Spirit is only an active force and not a person, take a few minutes and read this one:
http://exjehovahswitnessforum.yuku.com/topic/2936