My sister

rang me tonight, she is thinking of confronting our step father about what he did to us as kids.....(he was only the "family friend" at the time he molested me (age 12 or so), but was with my mother when he started on my little sis....she is five years younger than me). We have never told my mother because we knew/know that she would never believe us..and then she would blame us....

I think we may be ready to confront him, but I don't think we are necessarily ready for what the repercussions may be for her...the question is....in confronting him, we could be destroying HER entire life (she is in her late sixties)....she has no idea of what might be coming....OR we need to be ready for her to deny everything, and cut us off completely.....

Our thoughts also, are (belatedly) to protect other kids.....but he is in his seventies, so is he still a risk..?

And he has his own family too, what would this do to them?

Jen...in Oz