Not sure how or if quotes work on this board, sooooooo

MessyCowgirl said:
I do not and have never discouraged him from being honest. However, he does know some things are not acceptable such as saying so and so is fat or saying "I hate you".

MC, this was sort of what I was trying to say before and probably didn't get out clearly. Not sure I'll have much better luck now!

A couple years ago my neighbor who was 4 at the time said I was fat. Keep in mind this boy is one of my favorite people in the world - and I think I'm one of his faves too! His saying I was fat wasn't a putdown in his eyes. It was merely an observation. He was quite right -- I AM fat. His mom turned about 7 shades of red when he said it and it gave his mom a good opportunity to have a conversation with him. His comment that "the house is messy" may just mean that he can't find a favorite toy and not that the whole house upsets him.

It sounds like you have some really great solid plans for the week. I'm sure you and DS are going to have a special time making your house feel better for both of you. Wishing you both every success this week!