can someone help written describe meltdowns to this person.
it is amelia the counsellor that did the assessment to say that mika does not qualify for counselling.
after the school meeting on tuesday (which was not very good at all) the school didnt believe that mika didnt qualify for counselling.
so amelia has offered to be a source of "feedback" over the phone.
she had never heard of aspergers until us.
ok, so today the horrible meltdown happened.
mika is getting increasingly more aggressive physically when they happen.
he broke the door frame (*sent him outside, didnt dare put him in the kids room, he would hve destroyed michelles things, since they share a room). he was slamming his body against the door so hard he cracked the door frame.
this is what did:
told him he was breaking the door and he needed to help fix it.
(amelia agreed with this one)
he continued. swore and said he didnt care.
then told him he needed to stop or else he will also be grounded from the nintendo.
he "i dont care" ylled and continuyed.
told him he was now grounded from the nintendo and if he didnt stop he wil lbe grounded from the computer.
same result.
this went on until he lost his computer, nintendo, and going to the dance on friday (the only other strong motivator that he had left... warned him it was coming, he yelled "dont care!").
he didnt care he said.
then he started screaming that he didnt care about anything, and wanted to die. he said he woudl run away from school on monday when he gets there, because "it is close to town, at least i will get a bus ride to town that way".
talked to amelia on the phone about this.
she didnt agree wtih taking away his "strongest motivator" (tried to explain to her about the motivators and using them). she said the computer etc. have nothing to do with the breaking of the door.
she said that she would of just left it at teling him that he needs to fix it.she said that should of put mineself between the door and him.
mika could of broken the whole house at that time. he was totally out of control.
interestingly, he came off the school bus and he was laughing hysterically.
saying "im so happy im so happy".
asked him why.
he said "because i took all my anger out on the bus monitor"
he had gotten angry at the teacher today because the teacher had banned him from teh school trip to go swimming at a pool next week.
apparently (according to mika) it was for "creative dancing" (lol) they class was dancing to the macarena in music class, and some kids had started to dance their own way, and so they got banned from the class trip.
within minutes of coming home, and telling why he was so happy, he started yelling and screaming. he said he was going to "smash the computer into a 1000 pieces" told him that he was needing to take a time out in his room. he stood up, in front of mine face, and said "NO!" told him "will you go on your own, or does mom need to help you get there?" he braced himself and headed for the computer. so grabbed him, and held him in a bearhug and dragged him backwards,(as he is kicking and trying to grab at mineself) he yelled, and started kicking harder. though that if this continues in his room, he wil break not only his things but michelles. so told him that "am not sure you will be ok in the room so you are going outside for 15 minutes".
put outside. adn locked the door.
this is when he was slamming himself against the door.
broke the door frame.
tried to explain about meltdowns to the worker. because she said "just talk to him"
and how during one no reasoning seems to work.
she said should have gone outisde and placed mineself between teh door and him so he cant break it.
told her that he would not stop, since in the past he has not, when have placed mineself between him and the walls, am the one who has ended up with bruises.
she asked "what do you call it?" when said it was a meltdown.
asked if she needed to read books, or is online. could hear her typing away as she was talking on the phone.
proprably looking for info.
can someone help?
in how to write about meltdowns. about aspergers and what relationship these have.
and if you have any websites that she can read.
please.
and examples of what happens in meltdowns.. (like your kids, if they are close to his age... 11)
and what do you do in these cases...
