Are all signs of abusive qualities my dear budddy. Of course teachers all know that. Great coaches command respect, because they are able to communicate positively. The world is a changing my starry eyed abused buddy--get on the path to progress. In case you have lived in a cave---- 90% of success is due to positive mental attitude. Only 10% due to talent & ability. SO it would seem logical that a successful coach would be highly motivated to work at bringing out the 90% in his players.