|November 5 2006, 11:55 AM |
Colleges and universities bring together a unique and diverse group of people from our society. For some, such diversity will challenge and expand their previous boundaries of what they might have considered "normal". I would consider this part of the total eductional process, rather than just book knowledge. With this additional input on many issues, we can further learn to make our own decisions and position these upgraded orientations against what our "prior life programming" might have been. These challenges and expansion of knowledge can make us a better person in the long run, more confident about who we are and what we might desire to accomplish in our lives.
Many times, we learn how to enjoy new and neat things/activities (legal, of course!) and some of our prior suspicions might also be satisfied, confirmed, or filed away as "don't want to do that again". The propensity for these things to happen is highly variable and related somewhat to the institution's orientation (state, private, secular, vocational, etc.). For some, these new and expanded horizons can get in the way of their desired education and "book learning", but that's not the "as designed" orientation. Each of us have to find our new, expanded comfort levels in the social and academic areas, take them, and run with it as best we can--to the limit of our individual tolerance levels.
In the dorm I was in, the Head Resident make the comment to us (in a first-of-the-year meeting) that "You come to college to learn . . . and to learn how to play." Both valid orientations. "Learning" gets you on with life, but "learning how to play" gets you into the stress relief zone so that you can better deal with the pressures of future life AND have a better life too.
Obviously the freeballing guy had done it before. Perhaps the cock ring issue might be further investigated? Gently and maturely, as if you might desire to use that "trick" yourself? Could be interesting if handled correctly!