Has anyone here ever been truly "In Love"? You know that someone that you can lock eyes with and almost loose your breath, that someone that can run a tingle through you with just a touch, that someone that can speak your name and your heart skips a beat. Its a rare thing isnt it. Is it true that that kind of love lasts forever? Even if you're no longer with the person is that passion still hidden somewhere in your heart for them??
When I met my husband, I knew when he walked in to my work before I ever saw him. We would lock eyes and it was like no one else existed. Almost nine yrs. later and he is still my best friend, the sexiest man alive, and my one and only true love. So yes, in my opinion, true love is the kind that lasts forever. I imagine even if you aren't together anymore part of your heart will always belong to that person!
You're right about that, but at the same time if you really have that one of a kind True Love for the person, wouldnt that love still be in your heart for them even if they have let you down and you are no longer with them? Alot of people Im sure have never felt it, but I think once you have you'll know it.
It's like you don't want anything to happen to that person, but when you lose respect, you've lost alot. But when things really horrible start happening to you, you start losing the love you once felt. I'm not talking about going out on one another, I know that's really bad, but people are human and from time to time, it's gonna happen.
This is so true, Once you take your partner you begin to see his or her faults and as life moves on people make mistakes. These mistakes can form a wall within your heart and somehow you tend to focus more on the bad things than the good. One bad time can out weigh 9 good in a persons mind and thoughts. Keep your mind on the good times, focus on a future and leave the bad things in the past.
Nothing lasts forever my friend, not the bugs or butterflies, nor the nice warm sunshine of the summer. If I found someone that made me feel like that I SURE WOULD GIVE IT A GO
I think what you are describing is extreme attraction. This may take place before you ever even know someone. It is a really fun and exciting feeling, but it is just that, a feeling. The Bible tells us what love really is and God is described as love. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 tells us what love is and what it is not. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails . . ."
God alone can love us with a perfect love. However, God's love is our model for how we are to love others and I guess the bottom line is when you really love someone, you will put them ahead of yourself and you will be self-sacrificing. You may love someone in this way, and they may treat you like a dog, therefore, they don't really love you in the proper sense of love but you may still be very attracted to one another.
When you find someone that you want to put ahead of yourself and they want to put you ahead of themselves that is true love and the relationship will work.
I think that is crap! True love is rejoicing in the good times and finding that person that you can laugh through the bad times. Everyone is human and has those days that you snip at eachother or are all around crabby. "love is not boastful" My feeling is if you find that soul mate you should shout it from the roof tops because real love is few and far between!
Dear Sweet Allison,only you would think of true love in this sense.You are the true believer and i know you will always stay the same sweet girl i knew when we had a govt. class together at Sandlick elem. way back when. I think it was the early 90's DR. Street taught the class and i haven't seen you since,but i have a friend who is a client of yours.Never change your belief's or your courage to speak your piece,in all of the years i've been married,i still find enduring things about my husband that i couldn't see when i was younger,even after all these years of raising our children we were often so busy we didn't take time to talk much,but now we can discuss the Bible and our Church that has become so dear to us. I will always think of you as a young lady.
Thank you for your kind words. I remember Dr. Street's classes with great fondness. He and I disagreed on so many issues that it helped me practice my debating skills. He is truly one of the most intelligent men I have known. Do you still live in the area? I made a lot of friends and acquaintaces in those classes. I hope you and your family are well. Are you in the education field now?
I have to agree with you on the attraction thing Allison, there is an extreme attraction there, it was there from the moment I saw them, however I do feel it was more than just that, this person was the best friend Ive ever had. I dont know maybe its just me but I know Ive never felt anything like this for anyone before and I dont think I ever will, its a one of a kind love in my opinion.
Yes i do still live in the area and just had 2 grandsons who graduated this past yr fr Good Old Haysi High,one of whom we've raised since his dad was killed in 91. He"s such a great kid,never has given us any trouble at all,always speaks well of everyone. Needless to say im very proud of him,but im proud of all four of my grandson's. They are all good boys, the 17yr old plans to be a Dr and im confident he will make it,he's so smart.I would love to call you sometime and talk awhile,maybe that will happen sometime...Always
My dear Daddy still tells my Mother that she is the most beautiful woman in the world each and every day. He's always telling her that he loves her...so sweet. I would love to find that and have such love.
Gosh, he writes such nice notes on flowers that he gets her.....for instance on Mother's Day, he got her a dozen roses in a vase and wrote thanking her for being the Mother of his children and that he loves her....must be nice. He eveen showed me where is hiding place is for the cards that he buys her in case anything were to happen to him.....he loves my Mother!!!
That is the kind of love I hope to have. Most people prefer new love... where there is such passion and everything is brand new. Me, I can't wait for my husband and I to be old and gray with a million wrinkles sitting together and having that mature love that comes from a well of experiences and the things that are said are so sincere and meaningful because you have spent a lifetime with eachother!
There were multiple things that caused what happened, things just took a toll on the relationship and as time went on it just went from bad to worse, its water under the bridge now. I look back and see things that could've made a big difference and could've prolonged it but I feel that if some of the things would've been fixed that something else would've probably occured that would've ended it anyway, it was a relationship that just wouldnt have lasted, but the feelings that I had for this person were unreal. In a way Im glad its over, its better this way but that doesnt stop me from loving the person. I have someone else but I will never have the same feelings for them as I did before, I do think alot of them but often times I find myself going back to the times I shared with the other one, I dont want to do that but there's just some things that are out of our control, this being one of them. I havent felt any of these feelings dying and it has been sometime now, I just live the best I can and go on, someday maybe it will pass but I will always hold the memories close in my heart. Thank you for listening.
There were multiple things that caused what happened, things just took a toll on the relationship and as time went on it just went from bad to worse, its water under the bridge now. I look back and see things that could've made a big difference and could've prolonged it but I feel that if some of the things would've been fixed that something else would've probably occured that would've ended it anyway, it was a relationship that just wouldnt have lasted, but the feelings that I had for this person were unreal. In a way Im glad its over, its better this way but that doesnt stop me from loving the person. I have someone else but I will never have the same feelings for them as I did before, I do think alot of them but often times I find myself going back to the times I shared with the other one, I dont want to do that but there's just some things that are out of our control, this being one of them. I havent felt any of these feelings dying and it has been sometime now, I just live the best I can and go on, someday maybe it will pass but I will always hold the memories close in my heart. Thank you for listening.
The "Sad Part" is that alot of people will never know what that really feel's like.I agree with you the "newer type is not what it once was at all.I thought i had found it and found out different later well in their eye's.In my eye's i'll go to my grave with this man in my heart alway's and he'll never know.
Who knows, maybe he will know. Things have a funny way of turning around I guess, maybe he will feel it sometimes. I pray alot asking that my ex still knows in her heart that I still love them.
I had hoped that were true for so many year's and maybe thing's would turn around and that my day would come to have that True Love and Happiness.But life is too short and mine has been shortened even more by other problem's.So i hold what little memorie's i have and cherish them with all i have.I know that's all i'll ever have and the closest i'll ever come to having what some other's take for granted.
sounds to me like you should be single. You are totally jonesing for your past love. It is unfair to be in a relationship with anyone else because you have unfinished business with your ex. I have never been one to sit back and watch life so my advice is to give it a shot with your ex or move on! Please, please, PLEASE do not lead anyone else on until you have moved on because it is better to be alone than to string someone along!
You are right. I was alone for a good while, I did go out with a few different people but would never give anyone a second chance due to the feelings I had for the other person. After a while I decided I was going to have to get off my tail and move on, there was no reason to sit and worry about what had already happen and dwell on something that could never be mine again. Thats basically when I decided I had to do something, the loneliness was wearing me down although I did learn alot about myself in the times I spent alone, I had alot of time to sort through things and hopefully make a change in myself for the better. Im fairly happy now with my life things are going pretty good, Im not looking to string anyone along. I do have feelings left in my heart for my ex but with someone else or alone Im going to have those feelings. It will probably pass, but until it does there will be a piece of my heart that I will set aside for the one that I used to be with.
I think there are other's that carry in their heart a special place for lost love's that maybe they didn't want to lose or whatever happened.I know of people who were married had kid's divorced then remarried to other's well one did and then the woman got sick and died the man had remarried but ended up in the hospital the day she died and he died a few day's later they say from a Broken Heart.They still loved each other very much but just didn't do anything about it but i guess their together now.True love is very Rare and hard to find if your one of the lucky one's to find it Hold on to it Cherish it But don't Smother it or it will go away.
You are very right about that. It is hard to find, Im not an old guy but old enough to know when something special has walked into my life, I also know when something special walks out of it. The person I was with had that special kind of thing going on, when we were together and everything was good, you couldnt ask for a better connection between two people. I have found, in other relationships, that things are different sometimes with two people, you have different things in mind, like the way you like to be treated, the way you like to be talked to and held and touched, with our relationship we just clicked when it came to that. I have a fear in my heart that maybe it wasnt the same for her, maybe she just had the "attraction" that was mentioned earlier here, I pray thats not the case. I pray alot that she sometimes still remembers the times we shared and still cherishes the memories that we made together, I know I do. Who knows maybe Im crazy for thinking this way, I may just be dreaming, either way, a huge piece of my heart will always belong to this person, I just pray she feels the same in some ways. Thanks
You are very right about that. It is hard to find, Im not an old guy but old enough to know when something special has walked into my life, I also know when something special walks out of it. The person I was with had that special kind of thing going on, when we were together and everything was good, you couldnt ask for a better connection between two people. I have found, in other relationships, that things are different sometimes with two people, you have different things in mind, like the way you like to be treated, the way you like to be talked to and held and touched, with our relationship we just clicked when it came to that. I have a fear in my heart that maybe it wasnt the same for her, maybe she just had the "attraction" that was mentioned earlier here, I pray thats not the case. I pray alot that she sometimes still remembers the times we shared and still cherishes the memories that we made together, I know I do. Who knows maybe Im crazy for thinking this way, I may just be dreaming, either way, a huge piece of my heart will always belong to this person, I just pray she feels the same in some ways. Thanks
I made a name up so you would know me from the other poster's.If you don't mind my asking how long were you with her.It sound's like you would have done anything for her i know about the not having to "say anything" you just knew what was going on in their mind.I too had that once but let it pass me by and it'll never come my way again and i know that that's that Sad part.I have tried to move on and date other's but it's not fair to them if you can't give them even half of what they deserve.So i just decided it was best to go it alone until i can either get over this and i doubt that or just live with it and carry the love i have for them with me forever.If i thought i had a second's chance with him again i'd take it in a Heartbeat but i don't get my hope's up.I just watch him from afar and see him smile and be Happy and that will have to do for me.
I dont think she actually meant sneaking around and watching him from afar, lol, not in a stalking sense anyway, I think she just meant she sees him out some. Thats just the way I took it anyway.
We were together for a couple years, and yeah I guess it does sound like I would've done anything for her, in some ways I did, but I guess when it came to the things that really mattered, I didnt do enough. You would just have to understand our situation I guess to truly understand the rest, we had a tough time, alot of ups and downs and I guess it finally just took its toll. But like I said earlier, when things were good nothing compared to what we shared. I guess its better this way, there's alot less stress on us both this way, but it still hurts to loose something so special, there's not a day goes by that I dont think about what we once shared.
Why do people have make Comment's when one is Not Needed.I never said i Stalked anyone you do see people out when your shopping or just out walking.Broken i do know where you are coming from i have to smile at alot of the little thing's that we shared that would mean nothing to anyone else.But like you there was alot of stress and i guess then just wasn't mature enough to truly know what we had til it was to late.I told him all i wanted for him was for him to have all the Happiness in the world and i think in a few way's he has found that and i am truly happy for him.But everybody that know's us say's he still love's me and alway's will i guess we'll alway's have a bond together in our heart's.It was funny he said when we left each other that we would be remarried in 10 year's,it's been 17 so i guess he meant well at the time.
Yeah we shared alot of things to that most people would think was stupid. I still can see things that reminds me of those times and I laugh out loud, we had some good times while it lasted. When we broke up things went pretty bad, I lost alot of her respect, we both had and have hard feelings towards one another, but I still have alot of good feelings left for her, I hope she feels the same.
Have you ever even tried to just say Hi to her or is it beyond that i hope she know's how lucky she was to have someone love her as much as you seemed to.I'm not able to nor will i be able to have contact i mean if i pass by sure i can say hey how are you doing.But i try to avoid that it just make's it worse on me in way's.But it's good to know he's doing good and happy also.To be such a Joyful and once in a lifetime thing Love sure can be so confusing and hurtful.And why is it we alway's seem to hurt the one's we love the most in life.My biggest fear in life is being Alone in life and that's what i am.
Of course we've talked since we've broken up but as more and more things happened we dont even do that now. I try to stay away if possible, I dont want to see her, especially with someone else. I hope she's happy now, Im trying to be, somedays I do real well with it and then there's days that I really hurt, I bring most of it on myself thinking about things I shouldnt. Im sure as time passes it will all get better, but Im certain that I will always have feelings for this person, we had to much for me not to have.
Some how i don't think this is the same Broken i was talking to if so i apologize but you sound or should i say talk different on here with this post.And you didn't sign in the same either so i will just keep my post to myself for now.But i will say i'm sorry to hear this.
That's ok but you know how people like to comment like the other one.I'm sorry it's so hard for you it is for me but i also think it make's me stronger in some way's.I can't hide out forever and never go anywhere so i just have to face it at time's.But my heart goes out to you we seem to be in the same boat in alot of way's.Maybe one day we'll find what truly make's us happy once again in my case i doubt it just to old and don't want the hurt again.
Im just going to try and be happy with what Ive got, Ive had my one true love, I truly believe that, alot of people never get the chance to have that. Ill survive, I just miss so much about them, I wish them the best, maybe someday we can resolve things and atleast be on speaking terms again. Good luck to you, I hope you find what your looking for and more importantly what you need.
I wish the same for you also Broken that you both can over come what happened and forgive each other to a point to where you can at least speak to each other.That would make thing's a little better on you i think or at least it helped me some.Knowing i wasn't carrying all that anger around with me anymore and i could actually speak to him and be able to walk away.Best of luck to you it's been nice talking to you.I wish you much happiness in whatever you do in life.
