Can woman cheat secretly?. Just curious coz im suspecting that my wife
is cheating. there is no evidence but im having a strong feeling. Can
any ladies out there share their experience of cheating their husbands.

I don't have a husband and I have never cheated, so perhaps I am not an experienced source, however I am a woman and I can answer, if nothing else, one question. Yes. Women do cheat - cheating in itself implies secrecy so thats a given - and we can be very good at it. Women cheat, but we cheat differently. It will take a long time before a woman steps out on her man, but when she does it is a dangerous encounter. We are emotional creatures, so intimacy is achieved, for us, on a different level than it is for men. The cheating happens long before physical contact. Here is why:

When a man cheats it is just about the sex. He can lay a female, walk away from it and not be emotionally attached. Men tend to compartmentalize the women in their lives and they treat them accordingly. They have done this since puberty. So, when a woman lays with a married man, to the married man she is just sex and could never take the place of his wife and become the mother of his children. It is easier to walk away from just sex. However, women feel the most intimate with a man when her emotions are nurtured. She has cheated on her husband the moment she is emotionally intimate with another man. If she is confiding in a man about issues concerning her home, her family, her career BEFORE she talks to her man, she is opening the door for a stranger to a room only her husband should be in. It is innocent yes, but she will not tell her husband she is confiding in another man because she knows deep down she is wrong. Thats when the cheating has happened for her. The secrecy begins the moment she consciously chooses not to tell her husband about her confident.

By the time a woman actually has sex with another man she is already emotionally attached to him. It is harder for her to walk away from her lover, and she will resent her husband for who he is not. She will hate coming home and she will figure out a way to get out of her situation. With women, the cheating beings long before the sex, for men cheating is the sex. So having said all of that, if she is not sharing with you things and not depending on you for emotional nurture, it maybe because she is getting that from someone else.

I have no real solution, accept to listen to your gut, because 9/10 when we feel strongly that something is wrong, it usually is. Than talk to your wife before any rash decisions. As I said cheating means something totally different for us woman, so its is wise to explore deeper with your partner the root of this distance, and hopefully you can resolve it before its too late.

Good luck.

Wanaku,
Thank you for the beautiful insight. This is one of the best replies I have ever come across.

Rex Man

Wanaku, spot on. Danni, i cheated on my hubby when he betrayed my trust in him. Once that trust was betrayed, it felt like a roof fell onto my shoulder. Everything he said and did had no meaning at all to me. Gradually, things started to fall apart. To him i was just his wife and mother to his children. He lavish me with the most expensive gifts that money could buy. His job, dreams and aspirations became his baby. My dreams and aspirations though known to him, were shoved aside. My place was in the kitchen and in the bedroom. Gone were the days we would walk together hand in hand under the Moonlight or, go for a swim, take the kids for nature walk, eat out, or just play a game of footy with our children. Most of all I missed him as my friend. He stopped being my friend. And yes, I went astray. I found someone who became my best friend. He listened to me and showed interest. He, without knowing what my dreams and s my and aspirations were, offered to assist me with those very things he thought i should think about. He treated me like a queen and I tell you this is no sex only and I ditch you and go. Sex came much later. As Wanaku said, i opened the door to my lover which was a no go zone to anyone except my hubby. Don't sit down and suspect and wait to find out whether she's cheating on you or not. Talk to her and face to face. Open up the communication line. The warning signs should be screaming out now. What have you done to let her drift away from you? Try and sit down and go tru your memory bank and see where you failed. No men or women will look for another unless one failed somewhere along the line. I never looked at another men and fell for them when every aspect of our relationship was balanced. When there was a leak, the ship started to draw in more water. Remember small leaks can cause a ship to sink. All the best.

Wanaku, thats an excellent insight. I can personally relate to this.

Hey Danni, a cheating wife remains a cheater for the rest of her life. Trust your instinct and 100% of the time your'e right. Alot of changes do happened in her which are obvious just like what has been said above. Being on the net regularly, hiding phone numbers, text and bill records, grooming, new bank accounts and many more changes are happening than before. Once she has sex with her lover it is hard to trust her again coz it is very emotional attachement for women, ie time will tell before you lose her all together.

Agree with everything said and offer the following from my experience:

Don't buy too much into everything said about "good" male friends or colleagues!! Treat with caution and DON'T SHOW TELL SIGNS or over react or you will be accused of jealousy. Pretend olosem yu no save hah and you will NOT be the last to know!!!

Unusually working late and drifting into her own world!

Encouraging you to go on field trips, hang out late with friends and wantoks and allows you to spend money on pleasure activities just to gain time for herself at your expense. Caught her on this one .... paid for a Technician and a PI to tap her phones including her mobile!

I picked up the signal long before then and in my case and played along to really prove my inkling. She got caughtt and lost a family, business and properties, vehicles and is now penniless.

They are many signs my friend ... you just have to OUT SMART HER !!!

All said is true. Cheating wives are very good liars to cover up their trail. Once they break their wedding promises, they are gone. They pretend and will use your ignorance and play sugar baby but its all outward show. A friend's wife left for her lover only to cheat him, so in the end you are better off starting a new life.

Married Women cheat for many reasons. They are emotional creatures than man. They meed to be pampered and loved. They usually cheat with someone that has provided them the love and care. Most occasion they cheat with someone they had known from the past which makes it easier for you to trace, coz you may also know this person. Other times they cheat with someone new from work, sports, meetings or travel etc. You may need to ask yourself what you have done to make her cheat. If she has been cheating for a long time then it may be hard for councilling. Watch for new sexual desire, position and activities that she usually aviod but keen on this time, something that she has picked up with her lover. She also does things in secrecy. Some of your close relatives and friends will know about her infidelity but are not coming forward to tell so you may have to find strategies to help seek the facts. Her friends and relatives will do the same. Be smart to catch her..

Its interesting to read all the above. It make sense. Women are smarter than you think. Danni It sounds like your wife has broken your wedding promises. I have many girl friends who cheat their partner regularly so this is not unsusual. A married women to cheat her husband is something more serious. Danni Play the game and you will catch them soon.

Best wishes.

Danni I was like you. Did everything for her,Children, house, car,high life evrything but she still cheated big time. From my experience is that she was caught late. She was having the affair for a few years and was hard for her to reconcile. The only thing that kept stayed a bit longer was the children. I think once they have regular sexual contact with the lover its all far too late to turn back. How long have you been suspicous with your wife. Ussually the affair has been for sometime before the reality set in and you know about it. I was happy in the end when she left to start my new life. I'm happy now with my prsent wife wish I met her earlier. The other big mistake I did was to allow her live away from me whilst I was working hard to look after her and the children. She live a lie and double life cant be trusted again.

Best wishes.

As a woman there are many little things that we do to hide our affair. I have been in this situation were I was caught between my former husband and my Lover now my husband. I loved them both dearly but I knew I cant continue living a lie all the time. Many things like changing phone numbers reguarly, emails, new hidden bank accounts, everything like travel and shoping were great secrets- did help alot to cover my trail for a long time, coz I had children to consider too despite my lust. You have to be observant all the time. I broke my wedding vowels and the ring I wore became meaning less just a show to please my former husband. For us women once a sexual physical encounter there is nothing else, no sanity and lying becomes routine.
We had no trust anymore and we no longer do things together as couple. I was very defensive towards my former husband. I get uneasy amongs friend when discussing infidelity. I use to think I cant do it, not me but the rest is history. My current hubby was someone I knew from before, so there you go Danni.

Danni, you are not alone in this.I was cheated whilst on overseas duty travel.As a committed christain, she played on my complete trust to get away. She betrayed me. My best friends were able to tip me off. The rest is history.She lost everything:two children, house, car,my loyalty and trust and small business.Here is what to do:
1. Get some of your best friends to monitor her.Pretend you go for duty travel.
2. Get a technician and tap her mobile phone
3. Monitor the changes in her and pretend nothing happened.
4. Getenough evidenace.
5. Repeat step 1 and this time show her the exit. It is going to ne over.

Go for it Danni.

hey danni dont make the same mistake as my former hubby. He works away and was too busy ignoring all the signs and rumours. You know what when there is smoke there must be a fire so dont ignore your gut feelings that something is suspicious. I lost my sanity with a married man, we had good time together and we still are. You name it, we did it in bedroom. My former hubby works away from home and that was what I needed to fufil my lust. My lover comes to see me reguarly and I do travel to see him sometimes, cant get my hands off him. Sometimes we video call also good fun. My former hubby was DIB, I'm no trash can. Check your wife mobiles, emails, bank accounts, ward robe etc and you may find alot of clues. A PI would certainly help. I could tell my former hubby anything and he would believe my lies and that was his other weakness and that is to trust me a liar.

your former could be me, can i come for seconds?

nah change ma mind, i ma check out your luers wi fe....

lets make a complete loop


hah

As a women we cheat for a reason. I cheated my husband for another married man. My lover provided a new me. I'm see my lover regularly whilst being with my children's father. I love my lover more than my husband. I had to force my husband to accept my lies coz he is not interested despite been told about my infidelity, he cant read the signs and too busy with his work. I have no regrets and only time will tell before I will move on to be with my lover. He is the greatest thing right now. Man are easily tricked by a woman lies. dont be be a fool and trust your gut feelings as you are always right when you suspect your wife cheating.

Happy Mum
Who hurts more - when a husband cheats on her hubby or Man cheats on her wife. Very interesting can someon or happy mum shade some light on this situation

I think females hurt more than men. Man likes to tell his peers how many girl/woman and he has slept with. Women are looking for care .love and some to confine into. If the soulmate that she has all her confidence and trust is looking else where for sex - it hurts more. Man is also for his ego and his popularity.

I suspect my husband cheating too but hard to confront him. He has a lover a married woman that I need to catch them somehow. It hurts but I guess once a cheater you remain a cheater no matter man or woman. I'm disgusted at married woman cheating their husband and continues to lie about their affair. I think woman are more fragile and very emotional especially when you are an inocent partner. I think woman cheat for many reasons. What does she feel about her lovers wife?

We men to my understanding cheat out for pure lust. We just want to satisfy our hunger for sex(lust) and look for every means and ways we can. We can go to the extremes to pay or do anything for a women to open her legs.A man who keeps his lust in check is often very close to his wife/GF. Most of us are just lustfully going around trying to impress any females that comes in our way. Not realising hurting those women. Once man has seen a woman(sex) that same eager will last for jew months and after that he is looking at other opportunites. Those guys who are cheating - think twice you are hurting some you loved and married

i feel for your delima. the uncertainity and circunstances surrounding your suspisions of your husband cheating can be frustrating and depressing at the same time.

i think i can try help you earn your husbands respect and admiration for you back. its all within you. you know your husband better then the other woman. and you can help me win him back.

if you willing to try save your marriage and opting to use my experience , then email me on [email protected] .

success result will take time from six months to a year with out his knowledge if you keep your end of the bargain.


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Seven
I guess you are a guy, man with experience to check out the checting wife. The author thinks his wife is cheating. not vise versa as you are implying - Am I reading right

actually Im farking her, with my strapon,

Philma K

i suppose 7 refering to to the other poster ' lonely wife' not responding to the post originator....
funny how we interpret messages....lol

My hubby cheats with a married woman. Hope to catch them sometime. 7 I think I can handle this myself.

Lol, Hubbys cheat coz certain women are egocentric. They don't appreciate what their hubbys do. These women's demand lists gets longer everyday and they forget that he has needs and wants as wives they should fulfill. When you don't provide, love, care, support and fulfil your hubby's needs and wants. He will look for it elsewhere with someone who will accept him for who he is. Just be careful that affair doesnt blossom into passionate love coz you will lose him. Talk to him face to face and solve this issue.

LOL - what are you gona do if you catch your hubby with other man'w wife. You gona crack her head open or belt the **** out of your hubby if your are a good fighter.
I guess play it cool - see if you are not providing sex like what you husband wants. Everyman is different -and they prefer sex differntly too. Ask yourself if you are providing this - get to know your husband sex desires and work from there. how do I win my husband back is the target you gona set. My dear lady hatred will kill you in the long run - depression will affect your help so open up and communicate with your husband. Man and woman who see other other as sex objects encounters problems.Man and women who develop their patnerships in good faith and become very good friends will care for each other. They will fulfill each others desire including sex

Spot on Pisin. You too good a counsellor/adviser

thanks mama pisin

You spoke my mind you are anothe pisin. Being in love with a woman is all about sex satisfaction for man.

woman, you can win your wifely status back from a cheating hubby if you can perform better during sex. Being too conservative about sex is depriving him of his needs and your man may go seeking second opinion thus putting relationships into jeopardy.

happy coupling

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very interesting!!!!. There is a hubby suspecting wife cheating then followed by a wife suspecting hubby cheating with a married woman. hmmmmmmmmmmmm very strange but is this real world?

Crazy

Confused, this is real world and yes its crazy.

Mate from experience if she doesn't mind 1.when you hanging out with your drinking buddies more often then with her on the weekends 2. when you spend more time on TV, 3. when you check out other women & she jokes with you about it,4. stops complaining about things you did that annoyed her, 5. SHE JUST DOESN'T GET JEALOUS ANYMORE around other women and your boasting to your drinking buddies that your wife's the best becoz she doesn't mind your business becoz your in charge and your own boss. Bro thats when **** hits the fan..she's definitely getting attention from some opportunist who's filling the gap in her life your supposed to be filling. Thats the reason why shes cheerfull all the time and doesn't bother you...

Women are vunerable beings, given the emotional state they are in, the right environment and the mood. They are like children, you have to be around most of the time to keep their mind pre-occuppied, they get easily distracted by shiny, colourful and beautiful things. So, even when married they are always looking for that prince charming...LOL

hehehehe..jst a though

Cheers