Don't feel guilty. You didn't cause this tragedy. I, too, come from a family where the parents were happily married and we went on family vacations every year and there was always plenty of money for new clothes and dance lessons and piano lessons and cheerleading and whatever else I wanted to do. I, too, was surrounded by people who's lives were less than perfect. I used to wish something exciting (right down to some sort of tragedy) would happen to me because my life was so dull. Looking back (I'm 28 now..not exactly an old woman but I'd like to think I have some perspective) I realize that I felt that way because people used to make me feel guilty for being lucky. And I was lucky. I was lucky that my parents loved each other, that they loved me enough to teach me right from wrong, and that they worked hard so that I could do the things I wanted to do. I don't know how old you are but I am assuming that you still have a long life to live. If you want excitement, make some. I'm not talking about the kind of excitement brought about by negative things, but the kind of excitement brought about by negative things. 'Cause I'm tellin' ya right now that the girl who is having knee surgery is scared to death and we all know how being scared feels. The girl who's parents are getting divorced and is having custody battles fought over her isn't having a good time either. She may be telling you that she is, that she enjoys the attention but chances are it's to cover the pain and fear. Her whole world is falling apart and she is powerless to stop it. She will spend the rest of her life trying to get the power back. And the girl who just found out she is pregnant. Well...that girl has a long road ahead of her. Only now, she isn't the only one she has to take care of. Now she's responsible for another person and that is a HUGE responsiblity. Taking care of a puppy is one thing. Taking care of a baby is completely different. Taking care of a baby is hard enough when you have the father there. This baby's father may be there, but I'm tellin' ya (again) men mature much ssssllllloooowwwwweeerrr than women, this dude's not going to be much help at all! Be happy that you have a loving and stable home. Concentrate on doing good in the world, getting a education, painting your nails, curling your hair, cleaning your room, whatever you want just don't EVER feel bad or let anyone else make you feel bad that you have it good. Ok I'm stepping off the soapbox now. Sorry for taking up so much space.