Actually I wasn't complaining about my loss of freedom in the Army, just noting, given the opportunity to re enter the army, I would go in a heartbeat, my disability hinders this at this time.
I don't know where you are from, but have the appearance of being somewhat intelligent and very literate, and yet you use "odd sort of cowboy army" to describe an army you most likely have never really seen or worked with or with ant luck never have to.
Gays although allowed in the army, can not divulge their orientation with out being kick out, have you heard of "don't ask, don't tell"? If they do their job and are quiet about their extracurricular activities they can serve. Yes, they have to hide their orientaion, and because they have to hide, they are a security risk.