Husbands perspectiveMay 13 2004 at 3:25 AM
|Mona's husband, Jim (no login)|
My wife, Mona, asked me to post this. She thinks it would be good to hear the husbandís perspective of having a long time braless woman. First of all, I want to tell you I love that she is braless. Also, I respect her for all she is and I think she is the greatest woman in the world, and her bralessness is only a small part of her special ness. I have made NO sacrifices so she could be braless, so I donít know if this will help anyone.
She told me that some in this forum want to de-sexualize womenís breasts and I do not want to offend any of you, but I think Monaís breasts are very sexy and part of her sensual ness. The first time I saw her, I first noticed smile, and then her breasts. They were (are) very large and her nipples showed even through her bra. She has a figure that men notice, with a small waist and large chest and hips.
Now, with all that said, when I commented on her figure before we were married, she always went into a fit about how she was too large, too fat, her breasts were too saggy, and her nipples too obvious. One thing I did do to help her is let her know that to me, she was perfect. I liked her just the way she was. A year or so before we were married, she decided to start taking those awful diet pills that were popular back then. I really tried to convince her that she did not need to do anything like that for me. I wasnít looking for a skinny model and that I had found my perfect body to look at, hers. I think she started to feel more confident about herself, little by little.
Before we were married, I asked her a few times if she would go braless when we were out of town. The funny thing is that about a month before we were married, she went braless for a whole day and at the end told me she just didnít think she could every feel comfortable with her breasts showing so much, but that it sure was great to be without a bra from a comfort level, no shoulders hurting and no breast pain.
I think she told you, but the way she started going braless was on our honeymoon. Her wedding dress was designed not to be worn with a bra and we left for our honeymoon in our car directly from the wedding reception. When we got to our hotel, she figured out that her friends had stolen all her bras from her luggage. So, I talked her into trying bralessness for a while and she agreed to try it for a day or two since we were going to drive for 2 days and stay on a beach. Well, the 2 days turned into 2 weeks and on the way home, she talked to me about how I would feel if she continued going without a bra. I told her that I like her braless, but that it was her decision to make, not mine. She needed to feel comfortable. I also told her I was completely comfortable with the idea. She hasnít worn one since, it will be 27 years next month.
Now for my perspective. I know that men look at Monaís breasts and nipples, and I donít mind at all. In fact, I like it. I have had several friends over the years ask me if it bothers me that everyone knows she does not wear a bra and everyone knows exactly what her breasts look like. It does not and I take pride in her openness and naturalness. I am very confident in our relationship and I donít see the men that look at her as a threat to me. I encourage her to be herself and to not worry about what others think.
I have lost one friend over the years because of Monaís lack of bra. He was very domineering over his wife and he just kept nagging me that I had to tell Mona to cover her breasts. I kept telling him I donít tell her what to do or what to wear, but even if I did, I liked her just the way she is and that I really like her breasts. Finally, he told me that he was not going to be seen with Mona and her nipples, so I told him we would have to part ways and we did. He just did not view women as I do and he did not respect them as equals.
Mona asked me to give advice to husbands in your forum. I donít like to give advice, but Iíll make a few suggestions, and you can take it or leave it. Enjoy your wife, respect your wife, encourage her, especially by telling her that she is beautiful and perfect in your eyes, have fun with your wife. Oh enough, I think you all know how to treat a woman.
Mona asked me to tell one story that I like to think about. A few years ago, we went on a vacation and Mona had on one of my favorite tops. It is a knit tank top that has a very loose weave that it is easy to see her nipples, in fact they stick through the holes. We were in a gift shop and we had gotten separated when I heard 3 young guys talking to each other and they were saying ďhave you seen her, do you believe she is wearing that, and I have never seen anything like it, I have never seen tits that big.Ē I was thinking I wonder what young woman the guys are talking about when about that time Mona walked around the corner and they all said, ďthatís herĒ and I burst out laughing. I thought I was going to see this sexy young woman and here it was my 50ish wife. I got a lot of satisfaction from that incidence. Sheís the best.
Now, one last thing. I want to thank you all for participating in the community. Mona has enjoyed your company and your thinking. She has 2 friends that are braless, but they live in other states and she now has like-minded people to discuss issues of being braless and topless. It is great for her. And she showed me she has even included a few pictures. Wow, not only is she beautiful, she is also a computer geek!!!