Nat . . why don't we run a poll on this here? Have everyone read my post. Then, they can read Michaela and Peter's explanation of why they felt offended. Then, they can read my explanation of why I was intending it to be CLEARLY seen as funny, and why it was funny.
I might start by pointing out that . . how can anyone SERIOUSLY be considered devious or plotting if the effort takes them DECADES, having four children, etc? Maybe spys during the Cold War lived their adult lives for an ulterior reason, but no one . . not I . . would seriously think anyone is living their whole life as cover-up for something . . that's ludicrous.
As for the comment at the end: I was imagining a woman being topless at home (isn't that what this site is about . . breast freedom?) and doing work around the house. Wouldn't ANY man think that would be great around his house? YES Are most men EVER going to get that? NO! So, it is a fun image for most men, that a woman could be "breast free" AND doing work around the house (so the guy doesn't have to do it) . . and so, could I borrow a woman like that? (IN my dreams!) All a joke, pure and simple.
Now, you say there are three people who don't find this amusing. OK. But is it attacking? I don't see it, no way . . and not intended . . . and who couldn't see through it? Two of the people (I presume NAT stands for "Natalie" or some similar) are female . . and women don't find the same things funny that men do. Especially if they are feminist or liberal-leaning, they can be quick to assume anything a man might say in jest could be some serious attack upon them. I don't know either of you enough to know if that is your mindset, but just the gender barrier alone can result in misunderstandings. Unfortunate, but its the price we pay to try to bridge the divide.
Now Peter, of course, is male. I don't know him. I would tend to think he'd understand at least my premises for thinking the post was funny. And, if he knew me and how I think, he would KNOW how innocent the post was. But he doesn't. On the other hand, some men are also liberal and/or sensitized to "women's issues" to a point where they might also question any man's statements for signs of "misogyny" or "chauvanism". The ubiquitous "blonde" jokes, etc. might infuriate them, just as it might such women. Another possibility: He might have thought I was seriously coming on to his wife. I wasn't. I never do that. I know what its like to have a family broken up over stuff like that and I just don't do it . . ever. Again, he doesn't know me, so he thinks whatever he chooses. It would not be unheard of for a husband to take his wife's upset view of something and make it his own -- I have done the same in my time. Its a possible explanation for his reaction too. In any event, if he had gotten that impression, I want to apologize to him and state that I was not intending to flirt with his wife or suggest anything improper.
One other thing crosses my mind. I wonder if a lot of this reaction to one of my posts is really a delayed negative reaction to several things I have posted here . . particularly my comments regarding feminism, the mistreatment of men in American society and the law, and a few other flippant comments that were admittedly button-pushers (I DO like to elicit reactions now and again). Perhaps, after hashing over previous points I have made, this angered some people and they decided to rid the site of me by trumping-up an accusation. I am honest in my opinions, say them too strongly at times, and am glad to explain and, if necessary, apologize. Not everyone values free speech as much as I do, so they might prefer not to hear or read anything that they don't agree with. That is their choice, but I don't think its fair to make me pay for their narrow-mindedness (if that is what it is), do you?