I agree with what you are saying and therfor I have seeked information on this site. As a man it is not possible to convince a woman outside your immediate family to do as your family does.
One needs to also repect others but the situation is somewhat difficult for men to understand and women are the experts when it comes to sensitivity. I do not no how I would have even spoken about the subject to my wifes cousin, I would rather have my wife do so.
My wife is back to her normal way as I have posted below.