My father was alive at the time of my divorce, and he found it hard to believe how much divorce laws had changed. He told me that he had seen several male co-workers be unfaithful; and then divorce faithful wives, often taking the house and children in the process (as often happens to men today). I invited my father to accompany me to see the next attorney, and he agreed. I hoped that maybe I was explaining the situation wrong, and my father might have some input that would change the attorney's response. But, the story was the same -- all bad for me. Afterward, my father still refused to believe that the terms were that harsh for me . . he just kept saying that men never used to get treated this way, and he just couldn't believe it.
But, the ironic part of all this, for me, was that the legal changes DIDN'T atone for an injustice previously done to women. If that were the case, then good women would not be victimized, and bad guys would get what was coming to them. But that is not how the law works. The terms for responsible men are WORSE than for the "deadbeats". The latter men (who might not have been good providers or attentive to the children to begin with) can avoid (or lessen) support payments by deliberately being under-employed. They can choose to work for cash-only, so there is no record of earnings . . or to make money from illegal activities, such as selling drugs. If need be, these men can move around, making it harder to locate them and obtain any support. They might not care that they don't see their children (I have two ex-brothers-in-law exactly like this, so I know what can be done).
The responsible man, on the other hand, is going to keep his job and is easy to find. He wages are easily garnished. He's not hiding anywhere. He gets to hear all the threats (as I did) of what will happen to him if he doesn't continue support -- something he always did without the threats. He will pay heavier support because he is responsible and stays at his job . . doesn't run.
The other ironic aspect is that people will tell the man, "Think of the children." Translation: Don't fight or resent your mistreatment, just keep paying the support in hopes that your children will benefit. Yes, so long as the male children are young, the law and people care about them. But, when those boys grow to become men and have their own children, they now become the new enemy . . to have their children taken from them and pushed out of their homes. Yeah, people care about the children alright!
This is one aspect of certain Middle Eastermn societies that I wish the U.S. was more like. You don't see women abusing men in those societies. You don't see fathers pushed out. If somehow the U.S. lost to Muslim extremists, one advantage might be that males here would be important again.