I'm just saying pick ONE, or TWO, and not all these conflicting messages. Don't tell me to strive for X, and then to strive for non-X. I can't do both.
As for male stunts, I attribute that to something old and something new. The old is what, I'd guess, young males have always done. They have some much energy, perhaps testosterone driven, that they crave adventure and "seeing if I can do this." Sometimes foolhardy, yes, but also the thing that made men explore the oceans despite warnings that the Earth was flat and they would sail off the edge The thing that made men seek to climb the highest mountains, dive the deepest part of the oceans, or want to fly up to the heavens. Why? To see if they could do it and to feel what it felt like to be there, I suppose. Not all bad.