I have 35 years working in my profession, and never once have I had a direct supervisor that was male. Yet, I always receive good yearly evaluations. I have to work with staff who are about 90% female, and well more than half of clients are female, and I haven't had a problem working with and for them. I don't mistreat people simply because of some group characteristic they share. They are individuals -- they don't represent "all women", just as I don't represent "all men".
And, as I stated, I don't only or mostly blame women for the changes that have made enemies of the genders and levied punishments upon males. Certain women pursued those changes. Many/most women agreed with SOME of the changes and didn't object. But when the changes being made became more anti-male and not just pro-female, men as a group didn't object. They didn't do much of anything, either believing that so many other men were different than themselves that the changes might be warranted, or they didn't want to appear less manly by objecting: "Bring it on! I want it rough! I can handle it! I'm a MANNN!!" It was only after the bad came and they didn't like it that some objected in their own way -- blamed the one woman that hurt them -- or ran away (split out-of-state and/or worked only for cash to try to avoid the punishments. I don't call that being a man.).
Really, if there is anything for sure that I could agree with women about, it is that men have behaved as if they are less intelligent than women. At least women will band together to change things that bother them, rather than claim that injustice is a way to "prove their womanhood." Really, in a lot of ways, men are stupid. I would agree with that.
As for long-term marriages, those are increasingly a thing of the past, Nat. It was your and my parents' generation that had those routinely. Our generation has a mix of some long-term survivors but also a lot of broken marriages. Younger generations are increasingly not marrying or marrying for a few years and the divorcing. The data on marital longevity is still skewed by the old folks. My litmus test for marriage:
"How many people under 30 to 65 years of age are still currently married (for at least 10 years) to the only person that they ever married?" That means no prior marriages that ended. What percentage of all people in that age group could answer "Yes"? My guess is that it would be very low . . maybe 10-15% . . maybe less.
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