"Society says" alot of things, and there is a protocol to pretty much everything, and that includes a manner of dress.
I am conflicting with my beliefs here, but I have to admit what is so. In as much as I would love to burn the few bras that I still have left and never touch one again, I know that there will always be occasions where I either must bra, or must make sure that my bralessness is concealed. I wish it werent so, but it is so.
In as much as I would love to go without everywhere, I know that certain places ..such as the office, it goes against the protocol and societal expectations. I must admit, if I saw a co-worker show up to the office tomorrow jiggling and/or nipping and obviously braless....while part of me would think "you go girl", another part of me would be somewhat uncomfortable working with her in that environment. It would be a distraction to all I think.
Geez, I feel like a traitor! I can't believe I"m writing this, because I continue to believe in brafreedom and hope everyone experiences it some day. However, I do know that there is a time and place for it. That's not to say that one should wear one to such places as work. It just means that one should at least freeboob it there with some discretion, whether is be with a bra substitute such as a camisole, pasties, or thicker tops/vests/blazers etc.
This is why I stuggle with the concept of freeboobing it to the office, and why I still have yet to burn all my bras. Believe me, I am still going on with the goal of going completely 100% bra-free, but with some caution as to how I go about doing so.
I had many talks, and a recent lengthy discussion about my going 100% free with my partner this past weekend, and we have an informal "plan of attack", if you will - for going about achieving that freedom goal.
For now, I have cleaned out my bra drawer of most bras I owned, only hanging onto a handful of the most comfortable and functional ones. I now own around a half dozen bras. As they wear, they will be disgarded and not replaced. I am making a slow transition to complete bralessness by going braless to work whenever the outfit allows me to do so discreetly, by substituting my bras with camisoles when possible, and by gradually eliminating my bra inventory (as per Michaela's recommendation some time ago).
My issues are both nipples and jiggle. I think the nipple issue (mine are prominent) is somethign I will just have to live with. I've always had visable nipples (even with a bra on), so there's not much that can be done there other than to choose work clothing that masks it somewhat. I will cami it under blouses and such for good measure.
As for the jiggle issue, well my partner and I have looked into the options for this one as well, and the one we are leaning towards is a breast lift which would firm things up, and hense reduce jiggle/sway that I have now. I know this sounds drastic, but it is a viable option that would enable me to go braless at work with more discretion. Heck, we even did the math and on the money we'd save on bras over the years, the operation would pay for itself over time.
Im not crazy about operations nor the cost involved, but nor am I crazy about bras.
We are doing our research now, and I have an appointment with a plastic surgeon next month to see about it all.
Is this too drastic????? Again, we are just entertaining this option at this point in time.