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Happy Mother's Day

May 8 2004 at 11:10 PM
  (Login mgoodyear)

 
I just want to wish a Happy Mother's Day to all of the wonderful people on the Breast Freedom Forum!



your breast friend, Michael

 
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Anudist
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Second the emotion.....

May 9 2004, 1:17 AM 

Thanks Michael.... I'll second the sentiment!







 
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Anudist
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Breast Care

May 9 2004, 1:30 AM 

Mother's Day is hard for me to deal with at times.


I never really did have the greatest relationship with my Mother. She had her problems and I had my issues. In some ways, I guess I still do.

Unfortuneately, I will NEVER be able to deal directly with my mother as she died a few years ago from Breast Cancer.

Therefore, as stated above, Mother's Day is hard for me to deal with.

My mother's story is somewhat typical for someone of her age.

My mother did not discuss sex, nudity or other issues in the home. It just wasn't the "RIGHT" thing to do. My mother and father never discussed the body, its care and its feeding. Additionally, they never discussed the emotional issues either.

However, my mother was addicted to Caffine. I mean, there were definte signs of addiction, like you wouldn't believe.

My father tells stories of my mother and CocaCola (or Pepsi) in the 40s and 50s where she could drink a six pack in the morning and another six pack in the afternoon. Later in life, instead of Coke or Pepsi she switched to coffee. IT was her addiction --- without two cups in the morning and two cups in the evening, my mother would become abusive, argumentative, et cetera ---- you just learned to make sure that she had her coffee before you dealt with her or it would be hell to pay.

Well, its common for women who consume a lot of caffine to develop non-magligant growths in their breasts. Caffine lumps so to speak. My mother had several such lumps.

HOWEVER, upon her own breast inspection, she found yet another lump and made her own diagnosis that it was just another caffine lump. In this case it wasn't --- it was cancerous.

The thing is that she didn't tell anyone, not even my sister (a nurse) that she had found another lump. She just assumed that it was nothing to worry about.

She ended up having a full blown mastectomy, however, it was too late. The cancer had spread into her bones et cetera.

With some chemo she was able to enter into a period of remission. HOWEVER, it didn't last long and soon she had to endure radiation. The radiation was diabilitating and made her very sick and tired.

Eventually, it was too much for her body to take and she died within minutes of entering the hospital for the last time. There was nothing more that could have been done for her.

Therefore, ladies, take care of your breasts. Inspect yourself regularly, take action if there is ANY, and I mean ANY question. Catch things early and there may not be a problem. Wait, like my mother did, and it will soon be too late.

I'm sorry that I shared this with you all on Mother's Day. But if my mother had taken care of herself, she'd be here to celebrate Mother's Day with us. I don't want it to happen to anyone else!

Also, sorry for being a little long winded but you had to know all of the facts for the full impact of my story.

Take care of yourself!!!

Sincerely,



Anudist



 
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michaela
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Thank you for your story, Anudist!

May 9 2004, 9:53 AM 

Don't ever apologies for telling us how you feel. I am so grateful you told us the details of your mothers ordeal. I thought about you this morning, and wondered how you would feel today. I'm glad you come here to be with this family. If you don't share this news, some other child might lose a mother. Keep telling it whenever you get the chance. This morning I read mothers day cards from my family. Your letter brought tears. Memory eternal, Anudist! Happy mothers day to you, and to all.

 
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Cindiee
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Right on

May 9 2004, 10:10 AM 

Anudist,

Thanks for sharing, and I always, always, have been pretty open with our girls from early one about the risk of breast cancer and how to properly do self examens.
They have seen me doing it and they are doing it.
Cindiee

 
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Mothers

May 9 2004, 5:20 PM 

Mother's Day can be bittersweet for many, especially those who wish they had a better relationship with their mother, and those who have lost their mothers.

We have to remember people as they were and for what they were. If nothing else they brought us into this world.

Dealing with changes in one's health is often not easy, and when those changes threaten people it is easy to deny or rationalise. For women who have lumps it is easy to just assume a new lump is of no significance. If you are in the right age group, regular mammograms can help.

Anudist, we will probably never know whether your mother was falsely reassured, or suspected something and repressed the knowledge by denial, which is very common.

The take away message is that if anything changes, see someone. It may be nothing, it often is, but it is a chance you cannot afford to take.

Michael

 
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(Login mgoodyear)

P.S. (Special Occasion)

May 9 2004, 9:27 AM 

Ladies, if I know your e-mail address, you have received a personal greeting. Check your mailbox!
Michael

 
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