Well..May 28 2012 at 2:19 PM
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Bob Hanes (Login kenpo58)
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Understanding the reasons why others do things is very complicated and will obviously differ depending on the situation. You have what is going on relative to the surface, meaning "psychology" but then you have the energetic driving forces behind the material world. And that is a complex study and falls into sorcery and "seeing" energetically as with the shamans of mexico. And that is a lifetime discipline. To try and figure out all these people on this level is psychoanalysis and there are differing schools on that.
So at least in this response it would be futile for us to get into the mechanics behind peoples actions that you come into contact with. Please remember that I have also defined energetic loss happening from even the people that you do not perceive as "sucking you dry". Sure, there are degrees and some people may appear to be more draining than others but you have to be careful because even the most apparently "happy" relationships can bleed you.
However what I am getting here is that you perceive a need to maintain boundaries and it does not work. It seems to lead to greater penetration. Well let us see those people as a constant. I mean that you do not change them. You cannot because there are too many. People can only get into you energetically IF they know you. If they know you better then they can get deeper. People create an image of you and that is you to them. And ultimately there is no accurate image because all projections of yourself to others will be interpreted by them. Will be constructed by them. So there are many different "Yous" to many different people.
In order to change people from draining you you must change their perception of you. You have to build an image. This is part of a form of shamanic work called "stalking". You have no obligation to give people accurate information. Now at work for example you cannot be ignorant to people and you cannot withdraw from them. Those things will breed resentment. Also you can never confront folks bluntly at work as that will breed resentment as well. So you have to give them what is needed to control their perception of you. You can dis empower people indirectly by not revealing yourself to them accurately. Like they ask what you had for lunch and you tell them a hot dog and you ate too much. In reality you had a salad. When they ask what you did on the weekend you go on about the sailing trip you took when in reality you and your wife went somewhere else. In other words you break the link.
But do remember that you have to be careful about the image you project. Don't make yourself a bad guy to drive them away because you do not want others to see you that way. Just slowly chip away at the constructed thought form they have of you. You will gradually become more ghostlike to them and they will become more disengaged. According to the Mexican shamans a "stalker" has four attributes. Ruthless, Cunning, Patient and Sweet. All of those things must be used to form the image you give a person when you are manipulating their awareness of you.