Lost trust in marriage
Both Lenlen and Chilam love children. They wish they would have children in their future family. "fate decides whether you have a child or not. You cannot force it and you cannot hurry it to come. All I can do now is to pull down my defence. When I became pregnant, we will go and register to get married. I would not force Chilam into marriage because he has seen too many divorces among his friends. Even his parents were divorced. He does not have trust in marriage. I would wait till he regains this trust. Then we will talk about this matter" said Lenlen.
A few years ago, Lenlen would have quarrelled with Chilam about his romance cooked up by the media. But now she seldom does that. She explains "Previously, my trust in him was not enough. Every time I read about his romance in the news I would ask him for explanation. He would then ask me why I did not believe him and did not have confidence in him. I then told him that he was too gentlemanly that would create misunderstanding. I think he has change his behaviour a little now. This kind of news has decreased substantially lately. As regards the incident in Thailand, Chilam has told me before he went that he would like to gain some knowledge about these things, and I did not object his going. If I had not known about this beforehand, I would have been angry. This time I don't think he has stepped out of line.
Lenlen and Chilam have been lovers for over 13 years. They know about each other's feelings very well. Whenever there is argument, lenlen would always leave the battle ground and think it over. No matter who's in the right, neither of them would ever say breakup. Lenlen" It is not easy that two people can be together for 13 years. We value each other very much. We talk to each other over the phone every day and is fully aware of each other's where about.
Lenlen 'Before, I had an impatient temperament. I complained a lot about his advancement in work. He then explained it to me that we have to be contended. He said that we should not try to insert one's own thinking into other people and try to mould other people's behaviour according to your own liking, otherwise this would make it very difficult for that person to be with you. I am now trying to improve my temperament. I would not meddle with his work. This will give each other some space and then we can be more harmoneous together.'
Book reading
Both Lenlen and Chilam were attracted by the Book 'Da Vince Code'. They both read it. Lenlen "We have different habits about reading. I am a fast reader and like to know about the ending sooner. Chilam reads slowly, sometimes it takes him a month to finish a book. We often discuss about a book after we finish reading. Very often our views are pretty close.
When talking about daily lives. Lenlen feels that they have to accommodate each other. e.g." I am very impatient when driving. Hence when we go out together now he usually takes the wheel. But there is a problem, he has no sense of direction, and often gets lost. Before, I would have been very angry. He would then calmly said: we would eventually be there. I give up. Now, I do not even care about this anymore. That is what I call about accommodating each other"
Career
Lately, a lot of actors and actresses from Hong Kong are going to work in China. Lenlen has been doing this a while ago. She can now earn about 2 to 3 million dollars a year by taking 2 to 3 series. On top of that she also does commercials. Her earning is fairly substantial. That's why she has thought of settling down in Shanghai. However, Chilam said that most of their friends are in Hong kong and he prefers to live in Hong kong. Of course she has to give up that idea of settling in shanghai.
Advancement in the filming industry in China
Lenlen said that the market in China for film workers from HongKong is not as good as a few years ago. There has been a lot of improvement in their film making. A lot of workers have been trained and the quality has advanced a lot. If the film workers in Hong Kong do not work harder and try to improve themsleves it would not be easy for them to get work in the future.
Lenlen has not worked in Hongkong for a long time. She is actually quietly waiting for opportunity. She said that opportunity does not come easily. I very much wish to work in Hongkong but I have to have a good script. Actually I am contended I got the award for the best new comer, then two awards for best actress. We can not always be at the top especially in the field of entertainment. You have to unerstand this fact of life, then you can be happy.
Posted on Mar 2, 2005, 8:17 PM from IP address 192.30.202.15