Step back, Relax, Enjoy the experience.January 22 2002 at 10:02 AM
|David Hayes (Login DavidHayes)|
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Response to Thanks David-ODP-Lawrence
You describe an ideal situation for your daughter. She is apparently good enough to play for a high profile club, congratulations to her are in order. You say she does not have the ball skills that YOU would like. If she feels the same way, she should ask her coach for 3 things that He/She would like your daughter to work on to contribute more to the team. DO NOT ask about playing time. The coach does things for a reason. Most coaches truly do care about every player's well being. If your daughter does make a difference, then the coach has seen that too. Again, as a player, your daughter can only control what she does with her chances in practice and in matches. Only your coach knows why he/she starts the players that he/she does, but trust me there is a logical reason. In many ways, your daughter is fortunate that she is able to practice with players that have better ball skills. I can't say what you should do about ODP. If you can't get it out of your head, then take your daughter to see a practice or ODP match. If she thinks she wants to give it a shot, then tryout. If it were me, I would let ODP find her and not worry about it. Take this time to enjoy the growth and development of your child. You are dealing with a tricky age. If I were you, I would be positive in my comments to my daughter regarding her playing time and her coach. Please don't take this the wrong way; but your willingness to point out the shortcomings of other players on the team is very distressing. I hope that these thoughts are not shared with your daughter. At 13 or 14, the social aspects of interacting with the team, and feeling that she belongs with that team, are what will keep her involved in Soccer when faced with frustration or setbacks. Her time at practice and matches (and yours) should be a refuge from problems, not a source of problems. Knowing what I know about life now, I would love to be 14, and running free on the field again. Good Luck to you and your daughter.