Ref v Coach is not set in stone - You need more experience.

Where do you get off telling us we are ignorant of what happens and should happen between refs and coaches. There is no black and white on this. Show me anywhere that the ref bible indicates "DO NOT TALK WITH COACHES BEFORE A GAME". Please get off your high horse, you do not belong there.

Watch any professional game and tell me the coaches and players both are not conversing with the ref before and after the games. Your "higher than mighty" attitude about refs indicates your are not what a majority of good coaches consider a good ref. You need to absorb suggestions from this forum and become the ref you think you are.