is how I describe the most diehard ND fans. Going to dozens of concerts every tour is far from normal activity. Writing poems about Neil is far from normal. Buying the same songs over and over again in some re-packaged set is far from normal.
"Normal" is subjective. We are "normal" Neil Diamond fans & that's all that
September 13 2002, 6:06 PM
Besides, between my Neil Diamond front license plate on my vehicle and my Neil Diamond T-Shirt, everytime I'm out I found several more "normal" Neil Diamond fans. I've now got to go by our Post Office Branch and the Photo Counter at the Wal-Mart Super Center here in North OKC and tell them all when the next Tickets go on sale for any Concerts within driving distance (which is another subjective judgment)! I'm going to have to start keeping a list! I've also been telling them about our little community here.
..I've been known to write a poem or two among others. Does that make me "abnormal?" I think it's fun. We have to be very careful here in terms of judging anyone. My ultimate loyalty is to God; next comes my family and close friends - next comes my avocational interests, Neil Diamond and the Mystery genre. Am I "abnormal?" I don't think so - but it is difficult to judge oneself. Am I content? Oh yes! Have I made mistakes?
At least one or two a day. Do I get a lot of satisfaction, nourishment and pleasure from the iais message board. You bet! Obsessed? I don't think so. The people here I've gotten to know are the finest, most caring, most thoughtful, most sensitive I've known...and it's with humility and gratitude I stay here for the long haul. And yes, along with others, I'll probably post and create a poem or tow........
I don't think there is anything wrong with checking the internet each day to see if any new tour dates have been announced and catching up with every one on the board - some days I post and others I just check in for a minute to see if everyone is "still here"
Either way I know I am in good company and I have never "met" anyone on here!!
If going to several concerts on a tour, buying multiple cd's with same songs, talking to and meeting other Neil fans is "abnormal"...so be it. Frankly I'm enjoying the hell out of it and don't intend on being "normal" again.
go to a dinner or lunch, meet up for a day or two sometimes
September 13 2002, 10:53 PM
three for a mini vacation. Alot of it is about meeting new people in a relatively safe environment, with both singles amd married people socializing without any real fear of being "hit on" like you might have at a nightclub/bar/resort.
You see new and interesting sights (Reading has some great architecture if you like that kind of thing as I do.) You can window shop in interesting little specialty shops and in the case of a small town, find great things for good prices. You don't have to make the beds, cook dinner, wash dishes, go to work, etc etc, and the time is all your own.
On top of all this you get to hear some great music from a magnificent man and then share the excitement with people from all places in life, in all age groups, and everyone of them want to talk to each other.
I had a great time driving to and from Reading with a pair of 20 somethings. It was fun, fresh and exciting and we had a great time. Nowhere else in my life would I have an opportunity to socialize with this age group, and it keeps me flexible and open to new ideas. It adds dimension to my life I would miss out on otherwise.
It took me from home for a short while in a way that my husband wasn't threatened and it gave him time to himself. He also had to care for the pets, giving him a new appreciation for what I do day to day and how much work they really make for me.
I came home happy and relaxed with lots of things to talk about, and he was interested. We had a nice couple hours together before retiring actually TALKING about things unrelated to bills, jobs and family issues.
It's unique to be a Neil Diamond "hardcore" fan if you like that word. Not only does the music touch us deeply, not only does the charisma of Neil attract us, but it gives us a unique setting full of fun people who, in knowing them, expands your horizons and wards off the stagnation that can come with age.
Wherever I go, I am always aware of the architecture. I know absolutely nothing about it, but certain buildings with the sun striking them in a certain way always brings a feeling of recognition, dejavu (sp?) or something.
It happened to me on Tuesday morning in Reading. I wake up early, around 6 every morning. So I got dressed, got my walking shoes from the hotel garage and headed out. I walked for a little over an hour, and on my way back to the hotel I walked by this old, burnt out, brick house on Washington St. (It was either Washington or 5th, but just about two blocks from the hotel's front door.) I couldn't take my eyes off the house when I'd first started my walk, but on the way back I was on the same side of the street. I had to reach out and drag my hand along the old bricks to the porch that was easy to do while still on the sidewalk.
I guess my fascination was because the house was so large, and must have housed a pretty prominent family at some point. I kept thinking about what things those bricks probably could tell. I wondered about the kids that grew up there, the old folks who might have died there, the excitement on many levels that most assuredly would have been experienced there over the years. I didn't get any bad vibes or ominous feelings from the place. I just felt sort of sad for such a grand old home to have burned out wood around the windows that were all boarded up.
There is just something about old buildings and thier 'aura'. I guess aura might be the right word here. Seems that with so many years having gone by since the house would have been built, who could even guess at the sadness and happiness that the inhabitants would have felt over the years.
Hey, you think it was a good thing I was heading home on Wednesday? I'd probably have been down there talking to the place.. ha
Obsessive yes, Dangerous, no. Not a good idea, maybe.
September 14 2002, 5:08 AM
I think these activities are obsessive only under the following conditions:
1. A person spends so much time reading Neil Diamond message boards while AT WORK that they get reprimanded or fired.
2. A person spends so much time reading Neil Diamond message boards, emailing Neil friends or being on chat that they ignore their spouse.
3. A person goes to so many Neil Diamond concerts they get into huge debt.
4. A person buys so many Neil Diamond souveneirs they get into huge debt.
5. A person quits paying attention to their spouse because they think they are "in love" with Neil.
6. Rather than going to a marriage counselor because they have marital problems, a person starts obsessing about Neil and he becomes her "love object."
7. A person has no friends or relationships except Neil Diamond fans.
8. A person would rather be with Neil Diamond friends than their spouse and /or family members.
9. A person has to buy every Neil Diamond recording even though many are just a rehash of old songs.
10. A person starts buying albums by other artists who cover Neil's songs even though they sound terrible.
I could go on and on but the fact is, there IS life beyond Neil Diamond. If people want to obsess, I don't care. It's their life. I have been obsessive myself in the past and regret spending as much money as I have on some things even though I could afford it. But I have known people who were fired from their jobs or whose marriages have broken up because of their obsession with Neil Diamond. I have also been urged to go to conerts when it was not convenient for me or when my husband asked me not to go. I finally got my priorities straight. I have lost "Neil friends" but gained a real life.
....I remember, from years ago, a quote that I read that really struck me. Now, I can only paraphrase it, but it went something like this ".......whatever your heart relies upon, whatever gives ultimate meaning to your life, that is your god...."Think about that. Being that kind of "ultimate fan," giving Neil that kind of adulation, I think would not only wrong but dangerous. That truly would be "obsessive," and I suspect would make Neil(who needs his fans)more than a little uncomfortable. Deification of a "mere mortal," however great his charisma, would in a very real way be idolatry......
WEAK ON NEIL I gave that name to myself as a joke WHY???
September 14 2002, 10:32 AM
For I got happy in my saddness, lonliness and started reading this board,went to chat, buy Neil things on Ebay. After I spent a lot in one month on Neil tickets etc I laughed changed my nickname to WON. Obsessed NO!!! But there could be on in every apple basket. No I have a life in a psyhco education center......... The students are not into NEIL at all but they think I am cool to have an interest in Neil D. They know I like Aerosmith and other groups too. I have a boyfriend that I met at concert Feb 23. He saw I changed some in Memphis when it came to Neil and he would say I am normal just having fun for one day I may not ever get a chance to see Neil or do the things I did last weekend. And yes maybe I lost it when my camera would not take his shot at Peabody so I followed him quietly out the door taking his pix. AND WHO CARES and I do not care what others think as long as I am not doing wrong!!!!! Did Dennis think I was obessed when I saw Neil in the bus wave to me when I was standing alone. Then for some reason I waved calling back "I love you". Dennis knew what I met I am sure Neil knew it too. I love his music, the way he motivates me, for his spirt etc. etc. NEIL, ELVIS AND DENNIS in one weekend. I told Dennis who gets to go home with me after I waved to Neil?? as we walked to the trolly. Dennis smiled.
Whoever writes poems about Neil keep it up for I read some good ones at Graceland last week. DId you know writing can help the soul??? Gets feelings out poss not all about Neil but about life!
When we sat with Hadley after the show Sunday, we all acted normal for what I could see. Hadley was very nice and they like to talk normal talk. Tom was sweet to me showed me pix on his laptop was like a teddy bear and it was like we were family or friends. King was sweet to me and was very nice to Dennis. For what I saw we acted in a good manner and fashion. And yes there could be one apple in the basket. And folks remember if you have been lucky to see Neil a lot at bus call, or the band in person SHARE do not hide the info invite someone new for it may light up ones life one time........ and that may be their only time. I personally wanted to thank Les for the drink and Toni for the laughs. Toni was a sweetie and she invited us to her cabin this weekend. I cannot go but I thank her for the invite. Poss one day I will rent her cabin from her. And above all MANOLIN. It was a great night at the Pyramid. MAN BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER.