you know, i was not going near the subject of choice #3. i am sorry to hear that you had to make that choice, or had it made for you. i hope this doesnt weaken your day to day well-being, and you still have good people around you.
the seive will always stay in my mind now, you described it perfectly. and it really is a drain on resources we need; we pay out strength and hope so sparingly, that we have to decide when a job, a plan or a person is too costly.
that "for better or worse" line is probably the most vital part of
"becoming one". i was stunned that the same mind could have just spoken of marriage so recently. he never considered what a real life brings, and how much we need to face it together.
i pray you meet (or may already know) a wonderful wise man that WILL face it all with you.
i am posting this for Vickie, who is one of my favorite people in all the world, and who is so in my prayers. Vickie this gave me a surge of strength, you sent me a wonderful gift. and it is directly on point about what our future seems it must surely be, setting out in marriage... and why the words of our vows are so prescient and wise:
Re: Life
by Vickie Eaton
Boast not thyself of tomorrow, for thou knowest not
what a day may bring forth. Proverbs 27:1