First, consider your answers to the following questions:
1) Has the club coach worked hard to make your daughter a better player?
2) Has the club coach discussed college desires with you and your daughter and proactively worked on her/your behalf?
If the answer to the above questions is no, then you need to cut the club coach out of the process the best you can as he already has a track record of not being interested in your daughter. If the college coach wants to contact the club coach they will do so as they don't need your permission to do it. You will not be able to control what the club coach says so there is no reason to alienate the club coach by airing your concerns with him. If you feel the club coach is downplaying your daughter's ability with the college coach then you should consider proactively addressing the concern with the college coach and encourage him/her to watch your daughter (and others on the team) play as often as possible.
We went through the same problems with the long-haired one from GSA. We got NO help from the 'man' and worse at times felt he may harming the process. He had his own agenda (perhaps money on the side, etc., but who knows) but it was clear that his agenda wasn't to put our daughter in the best possible situation.
Best of luck to you and your daughter as you go through the process...