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    • Not so Shocked
      Posted Apr 3, 2012 3:53 PM


      It looks like there are a number of people giving you possible scenario's where the coach could be doing nothing more than promoting your child as well as other players, with no undertones as to one over the other.

      You refuse to acknowledge that as a possibilty, just continue to say that they don't understand or don't know the situation. Well of course no one here knows any more than what you tell us. And from what you tell us, it is mainly in your mind as to what you think the coach may have said. Because you have not specifically asked the College Coach or the CLub Coach.

      You asked for input. Here is some input. Instead of berating the coach on this web site, call the Club Coach and ask how the conversation went between him and the college coach. Ask what the college coach said about your player and ask for what input he gave the college coach. Tell the coach that you are curious because the offer you got wasn't what you were led to believe it would be.

      In addition, call the college coach and have a similiar conversation with the college coach. Ask him what type of feedback he received about your player and be upfront about the offer actually made as opposed to what you were expecting. Ask how that offer compares to what other players are getting and if yours is lower, ask what that means.

      Just be prepared, the coaches may be very honest with you and tell you that in their opinion your player might not be as good as you think that she is. The college coach may tell you that they see your player being a good support player, but would have a hard time being a starter. Then again, they may tell you that your player has been offered a package that is right up there with the best on the team and that they should be competing for starting positions their freshmen year.

      Just don't go around speculating on what may or may not have been said.

      BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY - every place where I said "you should" replace with "your daughter should". She should be the one talking with coaches, not her parents talking for her.

      And yes, this is coming from experience. When our Mia was in the process, she had these conversations - sometimes she liked the answers, some time she did not. But she got answers, got scholarship dollars and throughout her college career, used this approach to talk with her coach about playing time, starting roles, back up roles, etc. It doesn't end with getting the scholarship - being able to communicate with the coach is crucial to playing for four years at the collegiate level.
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