And what does your being Canadian have to do with it?
Anyway, no, I don't think you said anything overly harsh, although you definitely misrepresented what I was saying. I highly doubt you'll bother replying to this, but I'll say it anyway.
You said that people aren't going to baby you along your career, and people will have some things to say to you that you might not want to hear, but definitely NEED to hear. I totally agree with you.
But you make it seem like those are the only two choices---either things like Cindy said or being babied. That's an unfortunate conclusion, and under those stipulations, anything is fair game. There is a HUGE difference between the two and a LOT of room to give constructive, upfront criticism without being rude. You seem to think there isn't.
I think you also misunderstand the idea of constructive criticism. Here is constructive criticism someone might not like to hear:
"You can't sing Mi tradi right now. You don't have the legato yet. Keep working on it, but keep it out of your five now."
For someone who really loves Mi tradi and thinks she sing it well, that would suck. She would not want to hear it. It would hurt, she would probably get defensive, etc. But it would be constructive.
Here's an example of non-constructive criticism:
"You're not a baritone just because you don't have high notes."
or
"the fact that you lack a chest voice does not make you a soprano or tenor."
See, that's not going to help anything. If they don't have a chest voice, they don't have a chest voice. That's not "work harder" or "focus more" or "learn your music before you get here." <---that is tough but needs to be said. Saying those other things, though, doesn't get anybody anywhere. It may be true, but it's rude and it contributes nothing.
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Lastly, most of what Cindy wrote about had to do with presentation, and I said it was great. And it is. And most of the posts (at least the ones I've read) that she has written here are very helpful. I never said she had nothing constructive to say. She has a lot to say, a lot of experience, and a lot of insight, but it doesn't give her (or anyone) an excuse to be a jerk about some of this stuff. And there IS a difference between being nice and babying. And there IS a difference between being rude and being tough but constructive. Don't confuse the two.
Oh, and I appreciate your concern for me. I've come to the defense of another singer. I'm not sure how that would blacklist me or something, but it's really not a huge deal. My life doesn't rest on my singing. If you have something to say, you should say it. People will usually respect you for it. Sometimes they won't.
But I pose the question again: what does it hurt to be nice, or at the very least NOT be rude? if you can say the same thing constructively without coming off coldly, why not do it? I still don't have an answer.