I appreciate - YOUR - thoughts
"Getting tangled up in name calling and insults just satisfies the bullier.
With this I agree entirely and positively! However, "fighting back" doesn't have to employ name-calling or insults. And IMHO there are times when a person - IS - backed into a corner and has to fight back; an example is when a person has a responsibility and someone tries to bully him about that responsibility. The fighting back should be done as quietly and respectfully as possible without using the bully's methods, because name-calling or insults just keeps the fight going.
But once the bullying stops, it's much better to stay away from the bully's territory; when people disagree, they ought not to follow each other around - they should leave each other alone. If they meet, they should try hard to avoid new conflict. If they do that, there's a better possibility of eventual reconciliation.
To me, reconciliation is the major thing and we should do everything we can to leave that possibility open.
In faith, Dave
My grand daughter started ending her prayers with "All girls". Finally I asked her why, and she said "It's because everybody else ends a prayer with 'All Men', and the girls get left out".