Dave (Login dpeirce) Moderator Posted Nov 23, 2011 9:12 PM
I appreciate - YOUR - thoughts .
"Getting tangled up in name calling and insults just satisfies the bullier."
With this I agree entirely and positively! However, "fighting back" doesn't have to employ name-calling or insults. And IMHO there are times when a person - IS - backed into a corner and has to fight back; an example is when a person has a responsibility and someone tries to bully him about that responsibility. The fighting back should be done as quietly and respectfully as possible without using the bully's methods, because name-calling or insults just keeps the fight going.
But once the bullying stops, it's much better to stay away from the bully's territory; when people disagree, they ought not to follow each other around - they should leave each other alone. If they meet, they should try hard to avoid new conflict. If they do that, there's a better possibility of eventual reconciliation.
To me, reconciliation is the major thing and we should do everything we can to leave that possibility open.