My hubby has to go to Daytona for work May 16th and 17th. Since the company pays for his trip, he thought up this brilliant idea....if I could get my mom and dad to watch the kids, we could leave on the 14th together and spend 4 days there. He has a free ticket on Southwest for personal use, so we'd only have to pay for one night's stay at the hotel and our meals. And I've never been to Florida.
Alas, my parents said no. They've just moved into their cabin two weeks ago and it is still a total mess from being ravaged by a flood two weeks before that. It is a five hour drive to get here, and more than half their belongings are still in storage because they had to basically gut the basement, scrub all the floors, and haul out everything destroyed by water, mud, and sand.
I totally understand and am trying very hard not to be bitter. But I am super-bummed out.
My sister, who lives in Philly, but she's got two kids of her own and the trip would cover two days' worth of school.
My in-laws, but my MIL has questionable health and I think it'd be too much for her. She stayed with them when we went to the Eastern Shore in October, and again when I had my surgery two weeks ago, and I think it overwhelmed her. After all, it ain't just one kid....it's three!
We WERE supposed to go to Lake Tahoe in February and when that trip got moved to May (and my husband now isn't going anyway) my mom said "Okay, I'm still in...just let me know when and I'll be there" so if I was lesser of a person, I'd be all "WTF? You said you'd babysit!" but I do think the flood changed everything.
Yeah, I can understand their position in view of the flood. Too %*$ bad you couldn't take the younger kids to Philly so your Sis wouldn't have to travel. Then the older one maybe your MIL could manage on her own. It just seems a shame not to get to go.
I'm Tam, the much-bandied well-received newbie of yore.
Offer your parents a 4 day vacation from their flood damaged house. Have them stay in %*$ YOUR house with the kids. Makes sense. All the kids toys are at your house, and maybe they need a break from the chaos of moving, settling and cleaning....
But they're expecting four or five of my dad's "buddies" at the end of the week we'd be going to Florida and at present, the two of them are sleeping on twin matresses without a guest bed (or any other bed, for that matter!) in sight. So I understand. Sad, but I understand.
I'll come stay at your house. I have CPR, and a red cross babysitting course. %*$ I also have 4 nieces that I've babysat, all of whom are still perfectly healthy... physically... there is one that has been turned over to the state cause she's crazy, but there is very little chance I had anything to do with that.
So you are down in the dumps because your %*$ parents won't put thier life on hold and drive 5 hours to babysit, then stay there for a couple of days because they have real life problems like thier house getting flooded? Ever consider maybe driving up and helping them out?
I just don't understand the disappointment. My sisters do this to my mom all the time. Luckily she is lives around them. And I have had arguements with each one of them for pulling this shit. It's thier kids, our mother's responsibility ended when we became adults. Course my mom gets revenge by spoiling the hell out the brats and the sisters get pissed when they get the unruly offsping back. I am still waiting to see which side will smarten up first.
Since my husband works about fifty hours a week, and my three children are under the age of six and I'd be taking them with me, how much help do you really think I'd be? Their house was flooded and they have no beds. For a while, they also had no heat, water, or electricity. When I posed this question to them, I made it clear that a) it was an awful lot to ask, b) it wasn't much advance notice, and c) if they said no, I would totally understand. And I do. But that doesn't mean I wasn't looking forward to four days of sex and the beach. And maybe sex on the beach.
GODDAMMIT TRU!! I AM SICK OF %*$ YOU!! NOT THAT YOU HAVE ANY RIGHT TO KNOW THIS BUT HERE IS MY SCHEDULE TOMORROW:
8:25am - get moles off
9:25am - poke at the band aids
10:25am - tell the other moles about Nigel and Stewart's death.
11:25am - call therapist to deal with grief and guilt
12:25pm - eat a bowl of moley-o's Cheerios
1:25pm - take bandaids off. poke at stitches
2:25pm - call Tru, AG, VB and tell them that my scar is gonna look like Elvis. Or Liechtenstein. Won't know till the swelling goes down.
3:25pm - become momentarily despondent. Turn on Dr. Phil. Become violently physically ill.
4:25pm - go to church. light candles for moles
5:25pm - call mom. get yelled at.
6:25pm - take mother out for birthday dinner.
Why dont you save some time and money. Get a pair of scissors or a steak knife and just cut or clip the damn things off. If they grow back, you have set them and they returned, this means they love you or it could be a sign of impending death. Either way %*$ you are saving.