So, I just got back from lunch with the whole office gang. There are 5 of us. Then, I learned that my boss's wife was going to join us. yay. She is a broker for our company so I work with her quite often and had to go on an insured visit with her the other day. Not something I would typically do but whatever. They annouced that they were having a party at their house in about a month. Everone and their kids are invited. They have three and one guy I work with has 6. SIX! Im not goign to this. Its not about the children it that I dont like my boss ever since he yelled at me and I definitely do not want to drive an hour on my day off to come to his house. Im not going I tell you. Im not!
Career shortening decision? Squid?
Find all the most unruley children you can in your neighbourhood load them up on a tonne of sugar and take them saying that they are kids you look after on the weekend.
Because of your hostility towards your boss, I think you are reading too much into this. They're having a party, which you would be invited. I'm sure if you don't go it won't affect your career. Simply stating, "I have other plans" is sufficient.
I just sat there as quiet as possible trying to make myself imagine I was somewhere else. I think today was the last of the office lunches Ill be attending. I dont even like Texmex. They insist on going there every Friday. Fajita lunch special...woooohooo. bleh.
Funny - I'm having an office cookout tomorrow at our house. Pretty much everyone is coming - I hope not because they're worried about their careers.
Is the cookout FOR the office? Or is it a cookout with their friends that you're also invited to?
FOR the office, you should probably go.
ADD the office - totally up to you.
Honestly, even when it's for the office, I never hold grudges if people don't show up. Hell, half my management team never shows up for the Christmas party - so I just see them as an opportunity that people can take or not take advantage of - just make sure you give me the ability to have an accurate count for planning purposes by RSVP'ing. Don't say you'll come then blow it off. Other than that, we missed you!
But I'm not your boss. He may see this as an olive branch, and is clearly a douche, so hard to say.
You're not required to go if you don't want to, and even if it's for the office, well you'll get away with not going I'll bet with any of the great excuses you're bound to be offered on this thread.
Im gathering that it is FOR the office. Funny thing is that when his wife brought it up at lunch it had not been mentioned to me. He said, "Well I havent really told everyone about it yet" Maybe he was just inviting the other 3 people and not me. Ive not gotten any kind of formal invite so far.
Maybe its a non-issue but somehow I doubt it.
He told me yesterday that I pretty much cannot make any mistakes. I have to "walk on water" from now on. Guess what! Big suprise, but, I promise you I will make a mistake because (and here is the shocker) Im not perfect, asshole.
"Ive not gotten any kind of formal invite so far."
I'd say if you don't get an invite, you don't have to go or come up with an excuse. It sounded like when your boss said "I haven't told anyone about it yet" that maybe they only invited their friends. I didn't read anywhere in your posts that it was announced that it was an office thing. In any event, your boss sounds like a douche.
I know he told the two guys yesterday but he worked out with one of them and went to lunch with the other. One other person besides me apparently didnt know (at least she acted like she didnt) Maybe Im just not invited.
If you went and didn't want to be there, your attitude/behavior at the party may be worse for your job situation than not showing up at all.
If your boss chooses to make life at work miserable for you solely because you don't attend his party, then he's just an asshole boss, in which case, he'd find other reasons to make your life miserable anyway.
