She's been blowing off a lot of her homework the past two years. I've tried different methods to reverse this and have been threatening to take her phone away but it fell on deaf ears.
I was really reluctant to take it away, not because I would feel bad but because her having a phone is a big convenience for me too.
She does great in class, tests, quizzes, and exams but has become lazy with homework.
So like I said I warned her plenty of times. I checked her homework assignments on the net one night before boxing class and saw she missed a lot. Naturally I was pissed and gave her a lecture on the way about college soon approaching and I would be damned if I spent my hard earned money on college if she was going to blow off school work, blahblahblah. The more I stewed the more pissed I became. She had her phone already taken away from her and I kept it in the side pocket of my car door. As we were crossing a bridge over the Schuylkill I picked it up, said See this?, tossed it out of the window, and concluded with Not anymore!.
She sat with her head toward her window and silently cried.
Im a monster.
She'll thank you one day. I wish I'd learned to do things without mom telling me to before I left home. It made college a lot harder, having to learn study discipline, too. High school seemed so easy. That first calculus test slapped me upside the head. Hard.
The hardest thing for me lately has been letting Addy feel badly. She's in a phase right now where she totally gets it when she messes up, and then feels terrible. Some things she should a little bit. So as part of feeling terrible she cries, and you want to console her immediately - but if you let her off the hook for being naughty too fast, then she won't learn that there are consequences for her actions...blah blah blah it's really hard.
I feel bad because Ive never had any behavioral problems with her and this feels like a punishment for bad behavior. She gives me a little lip once in awhile but nothing that would make me gasp and clutch my pearls.
We're actually really close and she doesn't get all bent out of shape like a lot of teens when they're punished.
Autumn will get another phone when she buys one herself and pays her own minutes/contract.