You meet someone you know whose last love interest tragically died in a freak accident in their home. The home they still live in. They don't tie the house and the death together at all really, and they've mostly managed the loss pretty well. Which is to say they're really, honestly ready to date you now, several years later, and they're not walking around this house talking about everything the lost love used to do there.
It's a fantastic place - a really unique piece of property (9 acres hidden smack dab in the middle of it all) with a cozy old farmhouse with plenty of space. This person's identity is seriously invested in this house. They're probably not going to move - the house and the person are kind of a package deal probably.
Would you have any problem moving into that house?
Thanks Caps - I should also add that lost love who tragically died there wasn't that long a term relationship. They lived there maybe 6 months out of a total relationship spanning less than a year, and you get the sense that this person wasn't the love of your new person's life anyway, though they're probably too respectful of the dead to ever say so out loud.
Ok, I was trying to make this genderless - but it was a "She."
Best anyone can tell, she fainted and fell onto a plastic storage bin in the most unlucky way possible - she was filling it with old clothes in a super-hot upstairs storage room, fainted and slumped onto the lip of the rubbermaid bin - cutting off oxygen to her brain for a long time, but he came in and found her and pulled her off. By the time the paramedics got there she was pretty much brain dead. About 2 weeks later her family pulled the plug and she died.
It was tragic. Horrifying for him because he found her, and then because some people suggested that maybe he'd done it. Not the police or the hospital - who presumably would know best and certainly looked into it - but some douche bags. It's behind him now by several years.
It was. So he regroups, meets a nice new girl, and he's the most "what-you-see-is-what-you-get" guy I've ever known. New girl can see his life, and what it means to love him, everything imaginable is on the table. He owns a local small business, he owns this beautiful house/property where he entertains his customers often, and he loves the little world he's built, with no intention of ever leaving it.
New girl loves it too for a while. She lives there for almost 2 years, then they get married. Then she goes crazy in so many ways in their first year of marriage that it'd take me all day to write it up. One of the things she says made her crazy is the fact that she had to 'LIVE IN THAT HOUSE IN THE SHADOW OF OLD GIRL.'
I was just wondering if you guys thought that was valid?
EXACTLY! I wish I could know which anon you were the next time you post something I hate, because I'd give you a "Get out of Squid Free" card for that. You're dead on in my book.
The time to say, 'I WANT TO MOVE!' was PRIOR to marrying him. No fair getting married and THEN saying, "I need to get out of this house/town/life!" She knew what was in the basket when she checked out at the register! I mean, she did this within TWO months of tying the knot. It gets way worse, and there's a second WWTBD that I need to ask in another thread...
I wouldn't have a problem with my guy having past relationships or that the woman lived in the house. What I'd have a problem with was her ghost screwing with me because once you've watched enough Ghost Whisperer, Medium and Supernatural you learn that most spirits are pissed off like crazy and I know she would trip me going down the stairs.
(Not to say I don't think that was incredibly sad and tragic and I remember the story as well. I just believe in these things and would be a little freaked out.)
I wouldn't have a problem moving into the house. I think new girl blaming her craziness on living in the shadow of old girl is pathetic, even if she does feel that she is living in her shadow. Her feelings are valid but blaming craziness on it isn't.
I don't get why you think the time to say she wanted to move was prior to marrying him. People move all the time, for tons of reasons. People change and grow all the time. It's ok for her to want to move. He doesn't have to.
I guess what I'm really trying to say is that I am a hero. - Hep C