Re: Do you have days! When you just want to SCREEEM!
July 4 2012, 8:14 PM
Yes. Almost every day this week. B and I have come to the realization that we won't be able to fulfill our desire to have a destination wedding/honeymoon because we have noone to take care of Liv while we're gone. I'm pretty fucking sad/pissed about the whole thing.
Re: Do you have days! When you just want to SCREEEM!
July 4 2012, 10:12 PM
My nearest family member is my Aunt who lives an hour away but she would have to use her vacation time from work to do us this favor. It's not something I would come out and ask her but if she offered I would take her up on it. She's really the only person I would trust anyway. I would trust my mother too but she lives in North Carolina and she doesn't drive. You NEED a car where we live. The nearest convenience store is three miles from my house let alone a grocery store. And Liv becomes stir crazy if she's in the house for more than a day.
B's mom is too lazy and hopped up on pain pills every night after work and as of late she's made it pretty clear Liv is too much for her to handle.
I wouldn't want to put that responsibility on Autumn. She helps us so much already (she's our ONLY babysitter) but she's a 17 year old girl, ya know. I've never left her overnight by herself let alone with Liv to take care of.
I talked to my friend about my woe who also has a special needs child and she offered but I'm not comfortable with that either. The last few times she babysat for me Liv has come home with scratches and bite marks on her from her son so you could imagine how I don't want to put Liv in that situation again.
I've always done things ass backwards and when I imagined marrying B I always saw us standing on the beach in Jamaica reciting our vows. I'm not a traditional wedding type girl so planning one at home has no appeal to me whatsoever and it makes me cringe when I think about it. It's just a huge bummer because I thought this would be the one thing we would be able to pull off like we hoped. I've always settled for less and for once, for just this one important event in my life, I don't want to do that.
I think combining our wedding and honeymoon would have been the best choice for us. Even if we did get married here we still wouldn't be able to get away for the honeymoon. Frankly, we really REALLY need the time for us. B and I haven't even had 24 hours to ourselves in about 5 years so you can imagine how we're desperate for this time alone.
Re: Do you have days! When you just want to SCREEEM!
July 5 2012, 10:29 AM
For real, Arwen. Get over yourself. I called you a Super Friend. Sure I threw the word "meddler" in there but big deal. No reason to get all potty mouthed
This message has been edited by HOLDSDOWNSHIFTKEY on Jul 5, 2012 10:47 AM