Greetings sister, i was surfing the web when i ran accross your message, i felt compelled to respond,
First of all worship as instituted by God has varied somewhat betwwen covenants, in the old testament according to David in psalms 93 & 118 & 122 and many more was a loud joyous event. Secondly Jesus explained in john 4:24 that the time would come when the true worshipers would worship God in spirit and in truth, for God seeketh such to worship
the tone and acceptance of worship is on Gods behalf (not ours), therefore its not up to us as the creature to define what the creator excepts, and futher more, Sister,
we must focus on our own infallable selves and never condemn any man to hell,that is in the body, thats covered by the blood of Jesus, this blood is more powerful than we can imagine or think.
I believe the entire Church of Christ have missed some very important and pertinent insight from Gods word, and thats why we continue to be angry and ungodly toward fellow travelers to eternity. You must never leave Gods people behind ,When Moses returned from the moutain with the ten commandments, The people had made idols and where worshiping them, Moses stayed and gave instruction, and God delivered the people, so sister, you must go back and assist Gods people , if through only prayer, you must be spiritual, not judgemental:Never mad,angry, or mean,but add to your faith,love,patience,longsuferring,joy,kindness, peace, agaist such there is no law,or should i say , satan cant win when saints are saints: the brethren must be loved and prayed for, not left.