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July 16 2008, 1:22 PM
Good. All of my mates from back then have kids now, which I kind of find disturbing ("Oi! Whuts that on the dashboard ere? "What? Oh, this is a photograph of my newborn daughter! Didn't you know?" Yes, yes, of course I did, I did indeed...er, congratulations and such..."she is a year old now, ya know?" Er yeas, congratulations er for her being a year old... uh... ). I think this is sad. I will never have a progeny, I am just too dumb for that...(and I don't have any money, which doesn't make things easier...shitttee, I don't even have a girlfirend which is the most complicated issue to solve when you are approaching 29....). Children, money, women...
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July 16 2008, 3:05 PM
I keep doing this thing where I meet a girl, we start going out, I get this amazingly wonderful feeling and think I'm in love. I tell her I love her, we have a very intense relationship for a few months, then I get bored, realise it wasn't love after all, and fuck her about til she finishes with me cos I haven't got the bottle to do it myself. Which is a bit shit really.
But I have been in love once. Basically, in the year and a bit that I've known her, I've had about a month of happiness and the rest was pretty dismal. We're not together at the moment by the way.
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July 16 2008, 4:34 PM
Erm i dont want to do a deep meaningful insight as i might well be wrong but i just am so much happier with her, miss her lots and never ever want her to change in like anyway or how she feels, just like spending a day on a rock in the middle of nowhere with them would still be a great day haha if that makes sense
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July 16 2008, 4:47 PM
I was once, and hand on my heart Id of done, probably will still do anything for her. I wouldn't have swapped her for anyone in the world. She was my best friend as well as my girlfriend.
Unfortunately things ended up getting really bad after she had a miscarriage (we weren't trying, nor did we know) and everything changed. In a way she held me responsible for what happened as I wasn't the around the night she had it, said when she needed me the most I wasn't there and didn't know if she'd ever forgive me. That destroyed me and I think that was actually when I realised how much I did love her, because it hurt so much.
We don't speak anymore either. Its too hard.
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July 16 2008, 5:09 PM
Someone can't be a coward for needing no one other than themselves, that's just silly.
Surely the weak are those that feel they can't live without their loved one, or without having/being with a partner all the time.
I realised when i split from my wife to be, then had my jaw broken a few days later, that although i may get sad at the loss of someone i cared about, it will not kill me, and my life will still be my life, regardless of their presence.
I do feel a bit bad on current/future loves who haven't seen what i've seen and think differently, but my capacity to love will never again surpass the love i now invest in myself.
Love is just a four letter word.
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July 16 2008, 5:12 PM
I do feel a bit bad on current/future loves who haven't seen what i've seen and think differently, but my capacity to love will never again surpass the love i now invest in myself
the strenght to be alone or the fear f not being alone?
its your life dude
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July 16 2008, 5:53 PM
i think that it can be good and brave to rely on other people (though not obsessively). however there are are also cowards who desperately need to be in a relationship, no matter how bad it is.
but YOU are the ONLY person responsible for your happiness. not other people, not external things. you choose how you react to those people and events.
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July 16 2008, 5:53 PM
"although i may get sad at the loss of someone i cared about, it will not kill me, and my life will still be my life, regardless of their presence."
that's very wise. many people don't ever reach that. xx"
Indeed, noone knows the blues like me in my shoes. Ha ha
"the strenght to be alone or the fear f not being alone? "
I will never be alone as i invest greatly in my friends and give them the lions share of my time and love.
Friends are a much safer investment, and besides, i want to make everyone feel loved, not just one girl who can ultimately leave me face down in the gutter.
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July 16 2008, 5:56 PM
I completely agree with you there Dion
you hear of so many stories of couples drifting out of their long time friendships with other friends just to be with one another, how ever much i may love someone i could never put my friends or myself through seperation
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July 16 2008, 6:05 PM
believing in romantic love is an article of faith, like god or the big bang. its just one of those things you have to decide for yourself. nobody elses opinion matters two shits
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July 16 2008, 6:37 PM
Thanks a lot you lot. This threads just made me realise I still love my ex and has now got me thinking should I ring her and tell her. We haven't spoke for 7 months now, nor seen each other after what happened.
Bollocks.
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July 16 2008, 7:09 PM
July 25th 2005. The happiest day of my life. Got the girl i'd 'loved' for ages. Turns out she was fucking mental and got rid 2 years later. 3 years on...and i've come to realise i still love her but those bridges are well burnt now. We're just mates and it kills me to think i gave it all up as i just couldn't be bothered with the stuff that comes with love etc. Too much hassle i thought
Now i'd burn up the sun just to be with her
This isn't a joke post either
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July 16 2008, 7:24 PM
Clarkuss Im actually being serious for once. It was fucking tough what we went through. I know I very rarely am, but that was without doubt the most serious post of my 5 year stint on .org
Not just after a shag.........I can get one of this bar girl with have anyway. Easy.
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July 16 2008, 7:33 PM
"I was once, and hand on my heart Id of done, probably will still do anything for her. I wouldn't have swapped her for anyone in the world. She was my best friend as well as my girlfriend.
Unfortunately things ended up getting really bad after she had a miscarriage (we weren't trying, nor did we know) and everything changed. In a way she held me responsible for what happened as I wasn't the around the night she had it, said when she needed me the most I wasn't there and didn't know if she'd ever forgive me. That destroyed me and I think that was actually when I realised how much I did love her, because it hurt so much.
We don't speak anymore either. Its too hard."
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July 16 2008, 7:34 PM
"July 25th 2005. The happiest day of my life. Got the girl i'd 'loved' for ages. Turns out she was fucking mental and got rid 2 years later. 3 years on...and i've come to realise i still love her but those bridges are well burnt now. We're just mates and it kills me to think i gave it all up as i just couldn't be bothered with the stuff that comes with love etc. Too much hassle i thought"
Just to get this straight, you are posting from the year 2010?
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July 16 2008, 8:13 PM
"I was once, and hand on my heart Id of done, probably will still do anything for her. I wouldn't have swapped her for anyone in the world. She was my best friend as well as my girlfriend.
Unfortunately things ended up getting really bad after she had a miscarriage (we weren't trying, nor did we know) and everything changed. In a way she held me responsible for what happened as I wasn't the around the night she had it, said when she needed me the most I wasn't there and didn't know if she'd ever forgive me. That destroyed me and I think that was actually when I realised how much I did love her, because it hurt so much.
We don't speak anymore either. Its too hard.
:(" - Ditto.
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July 16 2008, 8:18 PM
What really pisses me off, no infuriates me, is the way my mind works sometimes. Julian Casablancas says it well 'Men don't notice what they've got, and women think of that a lot'.
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July 16 2008, 9:33 PM
I know its a sad story. I nearly gave in and called her today after typing that, but it isn't a good idea. I hope one day we can be friends again but its too soon and we've both said some rather hateful and hurtful things last time we spoke, her blaming me and me being irate that she could possibly blame me for something I knew nothing about nor had any control over.
But I'll always stand by that is was better to have had that time with her and gone through what we did, rather than never meeting her.
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July 17 2008, 2:40 PM
"But I'll always stand by that is was better to have had that time with her and gone through what we did, rather than never meeting her."
Exactamundo.
We learn from everytime that we get hurt, and that makes us stronger and wiser and prepares us for the next 'love' and what not to do.
Something tells me we'll never be fully prepared to handle everything correctly, but i suppose that's part and parcel of being stupid enough to fall in love.
The 'i may get back with my ex' thing is never a good idea though. If things are fucked they are usually going to stay that way forever as most people can't overcome pains like being hurt in a relationship without somewhat resenting the other person.
There are so many people in this world that no person is worth sacrificing your soul for.
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July 17 2008, 3:10 PM
^^ I certainly hope not mate!
They'll be other times, other people you meet. Its strange how things work out. I vividly remember the night before I went on the first date with my ex I was in a bar with another female friend and we were talking. She asked me if there was anyone I liked or fancied at the moment. I think my reply was something along the lines of "Well Im going for a drink with someone tomorrow but I doubt anything will come of it" and Id basicially written it off before Id even gone for this drink. And well the rest is history.
They say it happens when you least expect it, and I reckon thats true.
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July 17 2008, 3:49 PM
^^^^
What you say is true but i still stand by what i said. When youre an old man/woman looking back on your life (if you make it that far) it will apply that there is no greater love in the future than that what you already had, if you ever had one in the first place?
It is possible to have had the greatest love youll ever have at a young age but of course there is the scope that you have time ahead to maybe surpass it?
It doesnt mean that you will though :(
I think the key is trying to recognise the greatest love you will ever have if and when it arrives and hanging onto it for dear life. That way if it does dissappear even though you tried everything to hang on then you can have no regrets and live your life in peace.
I cant imagine its very pleasent having to live a life with the regret of the greatest love passing you by when you didnt do all you could to keep it and cherish it :(
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