Listen. Ladies. You folks are WAY too into this movie that I worry about the underlying anger issues you are NOT addressing by continuing to discuss this film. If I were a therapist or a Freudian, I would question your displaced anger at your father towards your current boyfriend, of which I have great sympathy because he has probably sat thru this movie a number of times while you dissect the inner meanings yet again.
GET SOME THERAPY. Posting here is not going to help you. Really.