have to disagree here ...August 25 2011 at 3:01 PM
|Alex (Login bogart99)|
Response to She was humiliated because she realized they were right....
I have to disagree. Well, obviously every context and every kid is different and I don't know the particulars of this one -- maybe the mom was right, maybe she was wrong. But the idea that something isn't OK because it's just for the convenience of the mom really rubs me the wrong way. I see real benefits to a 7-year old being encouraged to walk to school without parental supervision (in an appropriate context, obviously, again, dependent on the kid and the neighborhood) and think it's unfortunate that the fact that it also is convenient for the mom would be seen as a problem. If it's too dangerous, it's too dangerous. If it's not, it's not. The convenience is irrelevant.
I mean, look, I'd guess by the time our kids are 18 we'll all have said at least once, "I feel terrible that I exposed DC to such-and-such-a-risk but ..." and hopefully the "but ..." will never be, "...but I did it for my convenience." And obviously there's a gray area. I once loaded my DS into the car to go with me to pick my mom up at the airport (~20 miles from our home on a combination of 2-lane rural roads and interstate highway) when I could have left him safely home with DH -- but I knew he was driving DH crazy that day so I took him along. I felt guilty about it; I really try to minimize the time my DS spends unnecessarily in the car because I know car accidents are one of the biggest causes of injuries and deaths to young kids, but DH's sanity matters too, so I did it and I doubt if anyone's sitting around thinking, "OMG I can't believe she would do something so irresponsible!" Heck, now that thankfully our trip is safely concluded I don't give it much thought myself, but I still think it would have been better in terms of DS's safety to leave him home and I continue to strive not to take him out in my car unless I need to do so to get him somewhere where the benefits for him outweigh the risks associated with car travel.