You live in one of the more expensive cities. I wonder if your long-term plan can include moving someplace where the cost of living would allow you to have more time with the kids?
I'm so sorry about all the stress. Sounds like a really rough time.
Keiki's Makuahine (Keiki's Mom) 50, dh 50
Keiki: b. 2002 after 3 months bedrest
Natural conception following ZIFT/chem. pg
Olivia: b. 1999 d. 1999
28-week preemie, ptl cause unknown
Natural conception after 1 mc
ttc since 1998