Thank you, Z. I have put in sincere attempts at improving the things that seem to be an issue on my end. The problem lies when one person thinks the other is the entire problem and will not address their contribution to the problem. That is why he will not go for therapy; he thinks it is all my problem.
I know that I will survive this, and hopefully thrive through all of this, but its a little daunting now. All I want is whats best for my kids, if only I was sure which route that was.