Those first few months are very hard, until you & your son get your groove on. Much will also depend on your child's and your own schedules. For example, when my DD was just starting daycare, she was a very, very, early to bed child. 6 pm and she was frequently out. for. the. night. My DH & I split our pick up & drop off by days (I did Tue/Wed/Fri, he did Mon/Thur) and the first night it was his turn to pick up, I got stuck in traffic and walked in the door at 6:05 to find him sitting, alone, in the living room. Kidlet was ASLEEP. I missed it. Her first day.
I went up to her room, picked her out of her crib, held her, then put her back in the crib & went to cry my eyes out.
And it gets better. Really. My early to bed child was, obviously, a morning person. I learned to focus my attention on enjoying her in the mornings, and even got up earlier than I would like just to have that time with her. And I looked long & hard at all the stuff I thought had to be done for tomorrow -- and realized that at least half of it, didn't. Didn't need to be done for tomorrow.
On my list of things that no longer need to be done every day:
Checking email (ok, this came back once I got in a groove) & facebook & this board....
And we shook up some of the ways that things were done around the house. Because I was nursing, DH became chief cook & bottle washer. Because I had to do the bedtime routine. And that meant we had to rethink how we planned meals & grocery shopping. The biggest thing was realizing that I could not & did not want to do it all myself. I had to ask for his participation. We made some choices, including moving her to a daycare that had food I could actually imagine her eating so that I no longer had to pack lunch for her every single day.
Now DD is 5, we're doing the kindergarten thing (full-day)& there still isn't much time in the evening before she goes to bed. We get home at 6-6:20, and she's in bed by 8. It's a sprint. But I am working on being very present in the time we are together. I turn off the radio in the car & we talk about her day on the way home. We eat dinner together as a family. My DH & I share the cooking responsibilities, and I make the menu & get all the groceries in the house before the workweek starts so all ingredients are on hand every night for whoever starts the cooking.